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I'm pretty much a femme lesbian except I'm an ugly piece of sh*t and you kinda have to be pretty to match the criteria . I thought I was going to relate to this ,but could only relate to a few so eeeeeeee??
Haha I’m glad I don’t “look gay”. I easily fly under the radar without anyone suspecting a thing. I get close to my girl crush all I want, since she and everyone else accepts it as just being friendly 🤪. I’m kinda heteroflexible btw.
So I’m Pansexual, Demiromantic and I’ve been discriminated against at school (not really discrimination just someone being an asshole).
So it was a normal school day and in English these two girls next to me are talking and everything. All of the sudden one says, “Hah that’s so gay” and I just responded with saying “something can’t be gay it’s a person that’s gay.” So she just said, “Faggot,” and went back to talking to her friend and I tapped her on the shoulder and said. “I’m sorry if your homophobic ass is that rude to people, maybe if you were nicer and didn’t call people faggots you could find a boyfriend,” and she just said, “like you can get a girlfriend,” so I got my phone out and showed her my texts to my girlfriend to then I smiled and the bell rang so class was over and I left.
Side note: This was the end of class and we had already finished what we could do in class that day so we had some free time. (If this person is here for no reason, I hate third period English now because of you and your asshole friends.)
When a guy talks to me (I’m bi and I’m more into girls)your really pretty and I think we should hangout yes ok .
Me:hey your really meh and I think we should hangout no ok oh and by the way I like girls
All my friends don’t believe that im a lesbian. They all say I look straight. They say that I’m not bi either. But I have a girlfriend. All my friends just say I’m messing around and doing it for attention
Okay a huge struggle for me as a femme lesbian:
Whenever I see a hot butch lesbian and I end up staring because she’s really attractive, they think I’m staring in a rude way and that I’m homophobic. No, I’m gay. Please, you’re so hot!!!!
But I can relate to people saying gross things. After lunch, I’d meet up with my gf at the time. We’d talk, kiss, and go to class. One day, a group of dudes were watching us and said our loud, “Man, I like me some girls that kiss other girls. That shit be nice!” I flipped him off...
Why is being bisexual or pansexual etc. continuously looked at as being lesser in the gay community as a whole? I can understand personal preference when in terms of matchmaking but it’s almost as if being bisexual/pans is looked at as a cop out? Like your ideals or experiences in same sex relationships is no longer of value when you suddenly open the door of ‘yea, I could see myself being with a trans male/cis male/femme female’. The thought of someone being open to more than lesbians almost discredits their sexual orientation in the community. Asking for a friend👀👀
Omg I love you for this , thank you 😊 I’m a femme lesbian too and I have all these problems too! I agree it is hurts so much more when other lesbians assume you’ll flake after a couple of years. Really I think they’ve possibly been burned by a few femme lesbians and are just bitter. It’s invalidating when you’re not taken seriously, but as long as we keep informing everyone they’ll eventually understand, thanks again 🙏😊❤️
“Yes. We have sex.” 😂😂 So funny. I really love and appreciate this video. I just recently accepted my bisexuality and videos like this help me understand more and really kind of see things. Just know it was really helpful and I liked it :) and you are very gorgeous lol but more importantly you seem like a fantastic person :)
Yasssss both me and my girlfriend are femmes and no one believes we are together because “neither of us look lesbian” so this was so relatable so was the horror story once I was in class and my girlfriend called me and some girl sitting across from me asked me who it was I told her it was my girlfriend and she responded in a way that I will NEVER forget she said “ eww you’re lesbian you don’t look lesbian” first of all what does a lesbian look like than also why is it that now that you know I’m lesbian you won’t talk to me
my girlfriend just recently told me that when we met for the first time she was afraid i was just using her to experiment bc she thought i wasn't gay since i really don't ever flag as a lesbian lmao rip me
Everytime I see “Femme” i have to think of my friend because her name is Femme (in The Netherlands that’s a normal name)
But i’m bisexual but because I’m still pretty young (I’m 13) I haven’t heard any of these and I don’t want to hear any of them😒❤️❤️❤️
I’m lesbian and 14 and i wear boys clothes cause that’s what I feel comfortable wearing and a guy who is in his like 30’s comes up to me and asked me are u trans and I got really mad and I’m not saying there is anything wrong with being trans because my brother is he was a girl now a boy but anyways I felt hurt and my friend took me and talked to me about it because I suffer from depression and she was scared I would kill my self but I just wanna let u all know that if someone is mean just walk away cause it’s not worth ur time.
Let me just say: 1. You’re are truly beautiful and your voice is lovely. I really enjoy watching your video. 2. This story you told about the girl in the restroom was shocking. People should never assume that someone’s not a lesbian or not gay in general because of their looks.
Thanks for listening. Bye
You did the right thing because it doesn't matter what people think. Be who you are and love yourself like you do. Stop labels because labels lead to division. Who cares, I tell you straight people don't say, hey we're straight. They just do and be. Be with who you love, like and be the happiest person that you seem to be. Peace.. Your beautiful the way you are.
I'm only here because of have a lesbian friend and I wanted to know why she is so cute. I'm a guy and me myself I don't see why people are discriminated against people can live how they want to, like people need to learn how to co exist and not say hurtful things. I'm also a middle school so soon gonna start a movement at my school I hope you all take this message, also what she said
Lesbian here YEAH we do! One of my “friends” isn’t my friend anymore cuz I’m “gay” and the day before that I asked my BFF to be my girlfriend the day before that she said yes! So let’s just call her Lisa. Lisa said “ewwww! Girls should like boys not girls like girls!” My friend Amelia said “....Go suck a straight a$$ d!ck” Lisa said “will do! go lick a lesbian vagina” after that my gf Hannah pulled me away I was in fucking tears! (It was recess ye we’re in 5th grade lol crazy!) she sat me down and said it was okay and I didn’t need Lisa so the LGBTQ group (my group of LGBTQ friends) came over and spilled tea! Moral of the story! Be proud! LGBTQ + I AM THE L!
i talked to a girl who was lesbian trying to make friends and i had a gf at that time and this girl was like i can pleasure you more and shit and im not at all into those things and she knew i had a gf at that time and i rejected her and called her a slut but not directly I said I dont mess with sluts and she asked me whats my sexuality and i said im a lesbian and she was like you look bisexual and than i defendet myself
This is so relatable! Almost every LGBT+ girl I've met has told me that I'm bi because of how I dress and act. I'm a lesbian who's never met another lesbian (I know many bi and pan females though) and it's so hurtful to have other queer women stereotyping me, especially when they themselves know how harmful that is.
But... “you don’t look gay?” “You’re way too cute to be gay.” “what guy hurt you?” OR my favorite, “you just haven’t had sex with the right guy.” Like NOOOOOO!! I love girls & that’s it, get over it.
This video really inspired me to piggy back off of this & make my own video. Thank you for putting this out there & giving us Femmes a voice. 💜💜💜
As an older butch I’m saddened to hear that we as a community still treat each other with such prejudice. Please don’t let the actions of one individual speak for the collective population of butches. I’ve had several relationships with femmes because that is who I am attracted to but I don’t believe in judging anyone for how they present themselves and who they choose to love.
The one that I get the most is "You're probably pretending and just bi or something." I have nothing against bisexuality, but just because I have feminine features and appearance does not make me attracted to men.
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Up until recently, some of the nation has acted as though lesbianism didnt exist outside of porn and Ellen Degeneres, and acted as if girls only turn to dating women if they had a bad experience with a man. This, of course, is not true.
If youre reading this, its probably because youve experienced the frustration with dating sites and apps that claim to be inclusive to all sexual orientations, only to realize that some closeted quirks make it obvious that the straights are the target.
Chances are, at least one person you know has met their partner using a dating app. Male or female, regardless of what you identify as or what you like in bed, we all use them. And yet, most apps are still designed with only straight people in mind. What gives?
By its very premise, which requires the woman in a match to send the first message, Bumble assumes that its users are straight. And as a lesbian woman whos spent a fair amount of time on both Tinder and OkCupid, I can tell you that the apps arent great at weeding out men who dont belong (sorry for the immediate swipe left, Scott, Todd, and John, but I dont know how you got here).