http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- Top 4 Texting Mistakes That Men Make With Women Hey YouTube, how’s it goin? If you’re new to my channel, welcome, and to my loyal followers, welcome back! Today I wanted to share with you some common texting mistakes that men make with women. These are the top four, most common, texting oopsies that I see happening far too often. So let’s dig into what they are and some alternative texts to send instead! Make sure that you subscribe to my channel and ring the notification bell so that you can be notified every time I release a new video. And be sure to leave questions and comments in the comments section below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. Quick question, when you get a girl’s phone number, do you call or text her right away or do you wait a few days? Take the poll and let’s see what everyone is really up to! 1. The 3-Day Rule: Something that I see far too often on the dating scene is the dreaded 3-day rule. That is when you get a girl’s phone number and wait three days to text her. Why this is a problem is because, if you have just gotten a girl’s phone number after one meeting, then it’s unrealistic to think that that one interaction had the staying power to make a woman keep thinking about you. By day two, she has probably filed you away in her swing and a miss pile or she knows that you’re playing the 3-day rule because it’s been around for so long. A good rule of thumb is to wait no more than a day. You’re trying to build attraction and you need to build on your momentum. That is why waiting three days leaves too much space for her to move on. 2. The Bore: The second mistake that I see all too often is the boring, meaningless text. That is the, “sup?” “How’s it hangin?” those type of texts that don’t really light a fire under anyone’s butt to respond and are, quite frankly, pretty useless in building attraction. This is the equivalent to the people that are uncomfortable in awkward silences and have to fill it with nonsense. The solution to this is to text when you feel like it and to try and come up with something that will draw her in. You want a conversation hook. One way to do that is you could say, “Did I see you at the New Youths show last night at Element?” Even if you didn’t see her, this way you can open up a conversation about your night, and even your music taste. This is a subtle way to bypass the hi-how-are-you line of texting and jump right into your interests ie. Taste in music. If you want to learn a little bit more about texting and building attraction, head over to katespring.com/free and get a copy of my attraction building handbook, which is completely free if you didn’t already catch that! 3. The destitute dude: The destitute dude is the needy guy who continues to text when his previous texts have gone unanswered. This is not a good look for a man or woman. It comes off too strong. It’s like having someone breathing down your neck. And it does not lead to attraction. It leads to ghosting. I’ll never forget the time I went on a date with a man and what happened after. The date went really well, at first, I was attracted to him, we had the same interests, he was charming, and funny. Pretty much everything that you’d want out of a first date. After the date, I was really excited to see him again until he messaged me directly after the date probably 7 times saying how much he enjoyed himself and he was trying to make plans with me 2 months in advance. I was quite turned off at this point. It felt like he wanted to skip the dating and wooing part of courtship and just fast forward into a long-term relationship. Not only was he texting me no-stop, but he was also planning out future together after one date! Suffice it to say that I did not see him again and that the incessant texting didn’t stop for quite some time after. Don’t be that guy. One way to combat this is to follow the 2:1 ratio. For every two text messages you send, do not respond until she has replied. This way you don’t come off too strong. And the second thing to do is to wait approximately the same time that she took to respond. Yes, this is a game, but at the beginning of any relationship it’s important to keep the power in a state of balance. And not show your eagerness or desperation. That will kill any chance you have at building some intense attraction with a woman. 4. The Show Off: Alright, our fourth and final no-no in texting is showing off over text. Because tone is very hard to convey over text, I wouldn’t try and take the douchey-joke approach because that can, and usually does, come off at just being an ass. More at: http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- How to Handle The Most Common Texting Scenarios With Women Hey YouTube! Kate Spring here, for those of you who don’t know me I’m a dating and relationship coast from the West Coast of Canada. I specialize in helping men become the most confident and empowered version of themselves. And In this video, I wanted to shed some light on how to deal with some of the most common texting scenarios that take place between men and women. I want to give you some guidelines so that when these scenarios arise, you have the tools to deal with them and come out on top. So here are 4 very common scenarios and 4 solutions. Before we get going, remember that if you have any questions to leave them in the comments section below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. Also, don’t forget to subscribe to my channel. By doing so, you allow me to continue to create free content for you weekly. So subscribe and also let me know what topics you want me to cover in the future. Alright let’s get started. Just a heads up that these scenarios aren’t in any particular order. First Scenario: When She Doesn’t Text You Back. The first scenario I want to cover is what to do when a girl doesn’t text you back. I understand that this can be extremely annoying, but there are so many reasons why a girl isn’t texting you back and it isn’t always that she’s not interested in you. Although, sometimes, that is the case, sometimes it is just as simple as this girl has had a long ass day and couldn’t be bothered to look at her phone. She could be really into you, but just not feel like texting. Whatever you do, do not keep texting her if she hasn’t responded to your first one. You want to avoid blowing up her phone. Sending her text after text after text will only creep her out. It’s counter-productive. Everyone texts differently and the etiquette is very varied. A good rule is no more than two unanswered texts. Then it is up to her to come to you. Aside from not wanting to appear desperate, this is also important because in order for a woman’s attraction and desire to grow for you, she too has to chase you. She has to want to be with you and put in the effort as well. It’s all part of her attraction journey that she needs to have in order to fall for you, so allow her the space to chase you as well. Trust me, it will help you out in the long run. If, after two unanswered texts, she still hasn’t responded to you, then file that one away in the swing and a miss pile. You’re worthy of people’s time so don’t degrade yourself by begging for someone’s attention who isn’t giving you the simplest thing, a response. You don’t have to delete her number completely, but you should put it aside for the time being and maybe you could revisit her at a later date. What to say when she doesn’t respond to your text: This might sound a bit weird, but you could just text her, “Ha-ha, ok, sounds good.” You want to make light of her ignoring you. You don’t want to get mad, angry or sad, but you want to draw her attention to the fact that she’s ignored you without showing all of your hurt emotions. I’m basically telling you to be a little passive aggressive here. Oftentimes, this attempt will work in that she will just explain that she was busy and even apologize, or you give her the chance to make a comeback. Either way, it’s harmless and lighthearted. And if all else fails, if she hasn’t responded to you in a few days then pick up the phone and call her. Travel back in time to when phoning someone was acceptable. Call her, and put her on the spot. Or leave a voicemail. People who talk on the phone, to me, are fearless. Millennials nowadays attribute a great deal of their anxiety to talking on the phone or the fear of talking on the phone. So be confident. Call her and go after what you want. If she doesn’t answer or return the phone call or even a text then you know where you stand and you should just move on. Scenario 2: When She Isn’t Giving You Anything to Work With. Have you ever been in a texting conversation that sounds like this? You: “Hey, Hilary! Get into any trouble this weekend?” Her: “Unfortunately, no. Wbu?” You: “Oh, you know, the usual bank robbery followed by a pretty major diamond heist followed by a family dinner and drinks with friends.” Her: “Nice!” You: “What does your week look like?” Her: “Just work.” Now, this isn’t a bad conversation, but, as you can see, your girl Hilary isn’t really giving you much to work with in terms of conversation. Find more at: http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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----------------------Go to: http://www.KateSpring.com/FREE ------------------------ --------------------Go Watch My Free Full Video Presentation!--------------------- Relationships can come out of the most unexpected friendships. That’s why it isn’t always a bad thing to have platonic female friends. Because sometimes attraction can happen at the flip of a switch in a woman’s brain. I’ve experienced this before myself where I had a male friend and then one day I started to get really nervous when I would see him and I would get really jealous and mad when he told me about these other girls he was dating. I was getting so angry and I didn’t relax until I realized that I was having more than platonic feelings for this guy. That’s why I wanted to share with you some ways that you can tell if your girl, who is a friend, might want to be more than friends. Because it happens, and it probably happens more often than you would think. Before we get started, if you don’t know me, I’m Kate spring a dating and relationship coach from the west coast of Canada. This video is obviously tilted signs she wants to be more than frineds, which is exactly what we will cover. Make sure that you subscribe to my channel where you can stay up to date with my latest videos, and then you can leave all of your questions in the comments section below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. Alright, so what are the signs that your lady friend is starting to feel the dirty twirlies for you? I should mention that you should look for more than one of these signs, before you make a move. 1. She becomes self-conscious: One of the most obvious ways to tell if your friend wants to kick things up a notch is if she becomes self-conscious when she’s around you. I mean if she starts to dress better when she’s around you she could be trying to impress you and make you see her in a different way. A favorable way. This is one of the main ways that women try to capture a man’s attention is through our clothing choice. Regardless if men pay that much attention to our dress or not, women think that it really matters, so if she’s starting to dress a lot cuter, or sexier when she’s around you, or just more put together, she’s putting her best self forward when you’re around and that isn’t for nothing. This is easier to tell if your friend would wear sweat pants around you or show up in grubby clothes on laundry day. If you see her start to fix up her hair, put on some makeup, and dress better, these are all signs that she could be trying to get your attention and attract you. 2. She gets jealous: The second way to tell that a woman is starting to have feelings for you is when you start to talk to her about other girls she gets jealous or is always talking about how none of those women are actually good enough for you. She’s giving you a biased opinion on these girls about how they might not be good enough for you because she’s using her role, as your friend, to try to influence you away from these “unsuitable” women. Her goal could be to pose herself as the best option for you. Which is why she’s dressing well whenever she sees you. Another way that she could be trying to show you that she wants more is if she is touchy, which is our third sign. 3. She gets touchy: We’ve talked about this before if you’ve watched any of my other YouTube videos that one of the female indicators of interest is touching, not overtly sexual touching, but light hearted, playful touches. I’m not talking about her grabbing your penis, but she could be making excuses to touch you. For example, she could tickle you, play fight with you, brush something off of you, or grab your arm to get your attention. There are a lot of ways that women will touch a man when she’s trying to signal that she’s interested in him. 4. Takes more of an interest in your life and wants to hangout: When a woman likes you, she will want to spend time with you and she will be more invested in your life. She will ask personal questions in an attempt to get more information about your day to day life. She will probably try to flirt with you as well. When we like someone, we want to spend time with them. If your lady friend is trying to instigate more one on one hangouts, she could be trying to let you know that she’s into you as more than just a friend. Again, like I said, when you’re trying to decipher if your female friend has developed a case of the hots for you, look out for more than one of these signs. That way, when you want to make your move, your chances of being rejected are slim to none. Alright, you guys, that’s all I have for you today. Don’t forget to subscribe to my channel where you can stay up to date with my latest videos! Also, please leave me any video topics that you would like me to cover in the comments section below. Thanks for watching and I’ll see you in my next video!
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http://www.katespring.com -- How To Tell If a Woman Is Into You Hey guys! Have you ever wondered if a girl likes you? Do you feel like guessing a woman’s feelings is like trying to learn morse code? Well, there’s a number of signs to look for that will tell you if she’s interested or not. And that’s what I will share with you in this video. My name is Kate Spring, I’m a relationship and dating coach from Victoria, BC, and I want to show you how to tell if the girl you like also likes you. First of all, it is important to understand that men and women communicate in somewhat different ways and for different reasons. Men typically communicate to achieve an end goal, for example, making a plan to hangout; in contrast, women communicate to maintain relationships. So for men to understand some of the signs to indicate whether a girl likes you or not, we have to be open to different ideas. In this video I will share 8 signs that a girl is into you.
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- 3 Ways To Maker Her Want You What’s up people of YouTube! How ya been? Hope you’re all well! As you already know by the title of this video, I’m going to discuss 3 KEY ways to make any woman want you! These are the three best kept secrets in attraction. These are 3 very underrated ways to make a woman not only want you, but obsessed with you. The kind of obsessed where she’s the one texting you late at night saying, “come over ;)” As always, if you have any questions, any at all, please leave them in the comments section below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can! Also, don’t forget to subscribe to my channel and ring the notification bell. 1. Befriend Her: The first way to get under a woman’s skin, in a good way, is to befriend her. Having the goal of just befriending her at the beginning relieves the pressure from you to immediately become the object of her sexual desire. It’s breaking this down in to more simple steps. How you go about befriending a girl is to make a connection that isn’t sexual in nature off the bat with the goal that, later on, she will become quite fixated on you and only you. You do this by remembering the important details of her life, making her laugh, and connecting on your interests and have a good time together. How you get to know someone is by asking questions. The obvious what-do-you-do-for-work-question isn’t a bad jumping off point. Or what-do-you-take-in-school-question because the follow up is where you shine. You simply ask, “what made you get into that field?” or different variations of that. Such as, “what’s the best/most rewarding part of your job?” etc. These are thoughtful questions that allow a girl to open up to you, ultimately helping you get to know her better. The big but here, so that you don’t get friend zoned, is that you befriend her without being too available. Being too available is where men get friend zoned… hard! You don’t want to be at her beckon call. The thing about going in with the goal of friendship is that it lets her guard down, allows her to be more herself, but then when you start to implement the next steps, she will start to develop more than just platonic feelings for you. You will subconsciously create a desire in her to want to be with you sexually. Another key way that you don’t put yourself in the friend zone is to make sure that you put yourself first, which is our next point. 2. Put Yourself First: Putting yourself first means that you don’t put all of your eggs into one basket. You want to make yourself the object of her desire, but that comes with being a man that isn’t readily available to a woman all the time. Like in the friend zone, you don’t want to be the guy that she can call to dish about other guys, which means you need to actively be playing the field. Subtly let her know that you’re around other women. Funny stories about women coming on to you. Or telling stories about you spending time with other women, even if they are your actual friends. A lot of men make the mistake of giving a woman all of his time and attention too early on, which doesn’t prompt her to do any of the chasing and puts her in control of the relationship, which is not what you want. Putting yourself first means that your career and or school is your top priority. Men that have priorities and stick to them are very desirable to be with. It also poses a challenge to a woman to try to be your one exception. The next thing that shouldn’t fall to the way side are your personal hobbies, passions and friendships, after that, your time and attention can be on dating women. Doing this sends a subliminal signal that your life is important and that you are a man of value. This is the number one way to communicate confidence. So look out for number one! If you want to learn more about how to become the confident man that women chase and fixate on, head over to katespring.com/free and get yourself a copy of my free attraction building handbook. You can find it at katespring.com/free and it won’t cost you a dime! Our third and final way to make any woman want you is to touch her at the right time. 3. Touch to Create Tension: It’s no secret that creating sexual tension is one of the number one ways to make a woman crave you. Sex would be nothing without tension. And how you do this is through touch, but touching at the right time. More at: http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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http://www.KateSpring.com -- How to Escape the Friend Zone The early 2000’s was the year of those teen comedies about the nerdy guy finally winning the girl. Or Tv shows like the OC where, throughout the course of the season, the nerdy guy became cool and the one to get the girl. I remember them quite fondly. Hey YouTube, I’m Kate Spring, dating and relationship coach from Victoria, BC. I’m here to give you some tips on how to escape the dreaded friend zone. You can rejoice because I guarantee that if you use these methods not only will you escape the friend zone, but you will also become a better version of yourself. So keep watching. So, now you’re wondering what the key to getting out of the friend zone is? And I wish I could say there was one swift way to do it, but there isn’t. It’s a combination of things. But first I think it is important to understand why women put men in the friend zone. And that is that women genuinely believe men and women can be friends. But I’m not going to facilitate that debate here today. Another reason why you are put in the friendzone is because you’re reliable. That is not a bad way to be, but I’m guessing you give your friend a lot of positive attention because you just enjoy her company. With you being her emotional boyfriend without the physical stuff, she is satisfied emotionally because she has positive male attention. But -- and that’s a big "but"! Because you have such a great friendship, she doesn’t want to jeopardize losing you as a friend. Which is also why you are not physically and romantically together. Now I know why you’re all watching this video and that is not just to psychoanalyze your female friend, but to get some actual solutions. Before we do that, if you find this video helpful, like and subscribe to my channel. Where you can see more video presentations to help you learn to be the men that women want. But only do so once you’ve finished this video. Being in the friend zone has its benefits. You are already in your crush’s world. You know what makes her tick and what she wants. Ultimately, you are the best person for the job of being her boyfriend. She just doesn’t know it yet. In the friend zone, you give girls the attention they want, which allows assholes the space to be their negligent asshole selves. And plus, she doesn’t want to ruin that friendship with you so she looks for physical male attention elsewhere. If you look at this on the bright side, this means you have value to her and that is pretty damn important in a world where people are pretty replaceable. Especially with the presence of social media bridging the gaps between social circles everywhere. Now that you know you’re in the friend zone and want to escape it, you have to change how you interact with her. One way of doing this is to not be at her beckon call. You have to create a little bit of distance so that she gets a chance to miss you. You want to create more of a life for yourself outside of your friendship with her. One of the ways you can do this is to be busy. Keep yourself busy so that the next time she calls you to hang out you can say oh I’m sorry I already have plans. And plans that don’t include her. Another way to not be at her beckon call is the next time she phones you to vent or just to chat, you need to end the conversation first. Just be like, “hey, I’ve gotta go, my friend just got here.” You need to assert some independence from her. And you don’t owe her an explanation. I’m not advocating for you to play games with her and or to make her jealous, I’m simply suggesting that you create more of a life for yourself without her. By using these steps, she will be forced with a choice to make. If she wants you to be her friend, then she has to respect your boundaries. But, on the other hand, if she realizes through your distance that she wants to try to be with you romantically, then there you go! You’re one step closer to being a monogamist. Another way to get out of the friend zone when you are face to face is to not devote all of your attention to her. Say you’re are a bar, party, or any social gathering for that matter where she is there and there is the potential to meet another hot girl. You greet her, but you don’t linger and hang out together all night. This way you show her that you’re still friends, but that you want to meet other women, well because, she isn’t dating you, so you might as well try and find someone who will!
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- Signs A Woman Wants To Be Approached Hey YouTube, Kate Spring here. I want to jump right into this video. I want to give you the goods right away so that you can finally figure out when a girl wants to be approached. It’s rare that women approach men. What is not so rare are the signals that women send to men when they want to be approached, which is what we will look at now. As always, remember that if you have any questions to please leave them in the comments section below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can! Don’t forget to subscribe and ring the notification bell where you’ll be updated every time I release a new video. Poll: Quick question, do you think that Men and women aren’t so different in their approach anxieties. Women fear rejection and coming off as desperate just as much as men do. But, here are 4 invitations that women send out when they want to be approached. I would highly recommend that you look for more than one of these invitations when trying to suss out whether or not you should approach a woman. #1 Wandering eyes: The first invitation to look out for is the wandering eye. Is a woman scanning the room looking for eligible bachelors? Is she making direct eye contact with you? Has she gone so far as to check you out?? All of these could be an indication that a woman is looking for someone to approach her. A woman checking you out is the most obvious invitation and could signal to you that you should strike up a conversation with her. If she is scanning the room she could also be searching to see who looks available in preparation to lock down who she wants to send her subtle hints to. If you keep catching her looking at you then that’s an even better sign. #2 Proximity: The second way to tell that a woman wants to be approached is if she gets close to you. If you have seen a woman make eye contact with you and gone so far as to move in she is positioning herself in your vicinity and could be trying to capture your attention. She’s making it easy for you to approach her. Another one under the proximity umbrella is if a girl gets close enough to bump into you. If she bumps into you this could be coincidence, but if she’s been making eye contact with you and exhibiting some of the other factors we will look at shortly, then she could be REALLY vying for your attention. #3 Body Language It’s no big secret that our bodies speak a different language than our mouths do. So it should come as no shock that a woman’s body can, non-verbally, reveal that she would, in fact, like to be approached! 3. A) One of the biggest ways to tell if a woman wants to be approached is if she is adjusting her wardrobe or appearance. In bird culture, this is called preening. When a bird straightens his or her feathers with his/her beak. A Human woman actually does the same, but without the beak. They tend to use their hands. So when a woman is re-tucking her shirt, straightening herself up, playing with her necklace, changing which shoulder her purse is on, etc. She could be sending the smoke signal that it’s safe to approach. There are many subtle grooming gestures that women do that can indicate that they are ready and willing to mingle. If you want to learn some more body language basics and some ways that you can manipulate your own body language to get the attention of women, then head over to katespring.com/free and get yourself a copy of my Attraction Building Handbook, which is completely free by the way. That’s katespring.com/free 3. B) Another thing to look for is whether a woman is a tad nervous or not. If a woman has exhibited invitation #1 (eye contact) coupled with touching her neck, then you could have a woman who wants to be approached. The neck is a sensitive area and a vulnerable one at that. When a woman touches her neck, she could be doing two things. The first is that she is drawing your attention to that area of her body. Making you watch where her hand goes. Secondly, it unconsciously suggests that a woman is nervous. Former FBI Counterintelligence officer, Joe Navarro, contributed an article to Psychologytoday.com and said that when we are under stress, that our bodies crave a certain hand to body contact in an attempt to soothe our negative limbic arousal (stress). And, let’s be honest, trying to find and seduce a partner can be quite stressful. In terms of whether or not a woman wants to be approached, when a woman is out and about, and touching her neck she is feeling nervous. And if she’s previously made eye contact with you, then this could quite possibly be a signal that she’s waiting for you to approach her. More at: http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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http://www.katespring.com/ - How To Turn Her On With Body Language Hey YouTube, Kate Spring here, dating and relationship coach from Victoria, BC. A lot of you have been asking me how to turn a girl on with your body language. And that is an excellent question! This is one of the best ways to simulate some attraction between you and a little miss. Honestly, there is nothing better than those butterflies that you get in your stomach when you start to develop feelings for someone and their touch becomes electric! Body language is your non-verbal way of communicating with people. It is equally as important as your verbal communication. Whether you believe me or not, I promise you that we interact and we judge people based on this type of communication whether consciously or unconsciously. Having positive and engaging body language is key to putting yourself ahead in the dating world. Just before we get started, make sure if you have any questions at all to please leave them in the comments below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can! And let me know of other topics you want me to cover. The best thing to remember, and I can’t stress this enough, is to make eye contact with her. Strong eye contact communicates to people that you are more dominant and powerful than say someone with shfity eyes or someone who is unable to hold eye contact. That type of person is understood as insecure. If you can make eye contact with a woman, she will perceive you to be warmer, likeable and approachable. And when you are speaking with a woman, and you are able to hold strong eye contact with her, it makes a girl feel like you are only paying attention to her, which you should be. One at a time, it’s like when you were little and your mom would only let you have one cookie at a time. Same thing applies here. When you are looking all around the room and not at her, she will become disengaged and probably not want to continue talking to you because through your eye contact, she feels like you would rather be elsewhere. So smile and face her with an open body posture. Don’t cross your arms in front of you, and start asking her questions about herself. These are the basics! Women are extremely receptive to body language. And this is your first step in turning her on with body language. Ask yourself, “what am I trying to accomplish with my body language?” Or “what am I trying to communicate through my body?” And, remember, you’re trying to communicate that you are a confident man with a lot to offer a woman! You also want to communicate interest and enthusiasm, not in the way where you stare at her and talk too close to her face. That will just make her uncomfortable and most likely force her to clam up. Women are attracted to power. You can communicate this by taking up space. What I mean by take up space is be big. If you’re sitting down don’t cross your legs or arms. Be open and sit with your legs apart and maybe even your arm on the chair next to you. If you are feeling flirty, and the situation feels right, you could slowly bridge the gap of space between you two. For example, soft touch on the shoulder, or guiding her to the bar with your hand at the small of her back is a good place to start. If she is interested in you and is also exhibiting some positive body language, then she will welcome this kind of touch. Attraction is best built in the body, but to learn how to continue to build attraction when you aren’t face to face, head over to katespring.com/free and pick up a copy of my Attraction Building Handbook, which is completely free by the way. Alright, if you want to know a little secret, Amy Cuddy gives a TED Talk about how body language shapes who you are. She suggests that before you are going into a job interview, in this case I’m going to say date, or any time you’re feeling nervous and or small, make yourself big and hold that pose for 2 minutes. Make yourself stand in a power pose. This could be with your arms straight up in the air or a superman-like pose. She says this has proven to make people feel more confident. So if you are finding yourself nervous, and you need an instant confidence boost, try this! I guarantee you that women will be more attracted to the confident version of yourself. Another way to turn women on is to be calm. Because women are attracted to powerful, confident men, if you are calm, she will mirror your reactions. Being calm means listening, having a relaxed body posture—one that isn’t rigid and still, but is loose and friendly. More: http://www.katespring.com/free
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- How To Compliment A Woman What’s up YouTube? I hope you’re all doing well! For this video, I wanted to dissect the proper way to compliment a woman because the other day, I was stopped on the street by a man, one that I’ve never met, and he just wanted to tell me that I looked happy and to, “have a great day!” Now, I’m someone who is always very apprehensive when I’m stopped on the street, but this man actually made my day. His entire approach was non-threatening and, quite frankly, inviting. I felt like I could take him out for coffee and listen to him compliment me all day. It was friendly, without any expectation attached to it. This interaction added a little pep in my step. And I thought that complimenting people is one of the easiest things to do to brighten someone’s day and it makes you, the complementor, very likeable. Which is why I thought that I would make a video on this. Before we get into the goods, don’t forget to subscribe to my channel and ring the notification bell where you’ll be notified every time I release a new video! And then you can leave your questions in the comments section below and I’ll get back to you, personally, as soon as I can! POLL: Quick question, when you approach women, do you pay them a compliment or do you use a pickup line? Take the poll and let’s see what the majority is up to. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t love to receive a good compliment now and again. They give you a confidence boost that someone has noticed something about you and has gone so far as to tell you that they like it. Knowing that you’re appealing to people, let alone the opposite sex, is a great feeling. Genuine compliments are what we’re going for here. The goal is to compliment a woman on something that is chosen or that she’s worked on and not something that a girl is genetically predisposed to like height, eye color, etc. The thing to understand about women is that they want to feel special, but they don’t want to feel idolized. The difference being that if you give a woman a bunch of ordinary compliments, like “you’re so hot, pretty, have nice eyes, etc.” She won’t feel special or unique. These vague compliments can pretty much be used on anybody. So there is no originality and the girl with whom you are complimenting won’t pay it much mind. However, if you are to pinpoint something that you particularly like about her that she has worked on or chosen, then you stand a better chance of keeping a conversation going and inviting some intrigue. Here are what some specific compliments look like. The Physical Compliment: 1. “Wow, you look like you’re in great shape. What exercises do you do?” This one is a compliment on her body but, unlike the overused you’re-so-hot-compliment, this one is paying particular attention to the effort and hard work that she has put in to maintain her physique. The Style Compliment: 2. “I really like your style, it’s very unique.” Again, here we have a compliment that is acknowledging the thought that this woman put into her outfit. You’re not saying, “you wear those clothes really well.” You’re recognizing that you like the way her mind works in putting her clothes together. The Personality Compliment: 3. “You’re quite witty, aren’t you?” Telling a woman that she is funny is a great compliment! You’re telling her that you like her personality and it show that you like something about her that is more than just her looks. It’s a genuine compliment, and it can lead to trust. When you share praise for a woman’s personality, she feels good about herself and, in turn, will want to spend more time with you. Because people love to be around those who make us feel special. The Intelligence Compliment: 4. “I like your perspective, it’s very unique.” Complimenting a woman on her perspective is another way of telling her that you think she’s intelligent. And this is one of the best compliments to give someone. Who doesn’t like hearing that you value their opinion and perspective on different topics? I know that that compliment would work on me. Tailor the compliment to the girl. Make it specific so that she feels special. When you’re complimenting a woman, always do it with a smile, make sure it’s sincere and that you actually believe it because the girl won’t buy it if it’s not genuine. Genuine compliments can actually make you seem more trustworthy and not make a woman want to shoo you away, which is ultimately what we want! Trust is essential when you’re trying to connect with a woman and build a foundation upon which to create some attraction. And that, YouTubers, is how you compliment a woman! Not too difficult, right? I hope that you enjoyed this video! More at: http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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--------------------------Go to: www.KateSpring.com/FREE---------------------------- For More Free Tips On How To Build Attraction With Your Dream Girl! What’s good YouTubers! I hope you’re all doing well. For those of you who don’t know me, I’m Kate Spring and today I want to discuss some signs that women give off when they are hinting that you can kiss them. How to tell if a woman likes you and wants to be kissed is not so much what she says, but how she says it. I.e What her body is communicating. However, if she says, “don’t kiss me” then, don’t kiss her. But if you and a special someone are getting a little bit more comfortable with one another, and you are wondering how to proceed, there are some very telling signs that you should kiss her. And they are as follows. 1. When She’s Leaning Into You: Our first telling sign is if she is leaning into you. We want to be close to the people that we like. This is an indicator of interest. When we see something or someone that we like, we want to be near them. It’s quite simple. And conversely, if we don’t like you, then we want to put space between us and leave as soon as the opportunity arises. When you’re trying to tell if a woman is jonesing for you to kiss her, the first thing that you should pay attention to is how close she is trying to get to you. Because if she has moved close to you, then she could be trying to touch you, which brings us to our next point. 2. If She Touches You: If a woman touches you either playfully or seriously, that is a good sign. Any physical body contact is great here. Has she playfully tickled you? Or jokingly shoved you? Has she made different attempts to get your attention? Has she brushed something off of your sleeve? If she has done any of these things, then she is flirting with you, which could lead to kissing. She is breaking the touch barrier, which you should also be doing too. If you want to test the waters, and be certain that your kiss won’t be rejected, then you should see how she reacts to your touch. Now another sign to look out for is if a girl is looking at your lips. 3. She’s Looking At Your Lips/ Lip Licking: The third sign to look for when you’re trying to decipher if a girl is willing and ready for your kiss is to observe her lips. Is she licking them, biting them, or playing with them? These are seduction techniques that are an involuntary reflex to our feelings of desire for you and what we’re thinking about. She could be licking, biting or playing with her lips and making eye contact with you is a sign that she wants to be kissed. 4. Listen: The fourth and final sign that you should look for before going in for the kiss is not so much of a visual sign, but a verbal one. Pay attention on the date, don’t focus all of your attention on looking for these signs. If you focus on the conversation and enjoying yourself, these things will flow and you will be able to tell her level of interest in you through conversation as well as her body language. So remember, when you’re trying to see if a woman wants to be kissed, pay attention to if she is leaning into you, begins touching you, or is biting licking her lips or looking at your lips. While being observant of these indicators, don’t forget to pay full attention to the conversation and the date itself. In short, engage and enjoy! Alright, YouTubers, that’s all I have for you today. Make sure that you subscribe to my channel that way you can stay up to date with my latest videos. As always, thank you for your constant support and I’ll see you in my next video!
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- 3 Key Principles To Attraction Hey YouTube, how’s it goin? If you’re new to my channel, welcome, and to my loyal followers, welcome back! Today I wanted to share with you some common texting mistakes that men make with women. These are the top four, most common, texting oopsies that I see happening far too often. So let’s dig into what they are and some alternative texts to send instead! Make sure that you subscribe to my channel and ring the notification bell so that you can be notified every time I release a new video. And be sure to leave questions and comments in the comments section below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. Quick question, when you get a girl’s phone number, do you call or text her right away or do you wait a few days? Take the poll and let’s see what everyone is really up to! 1. The 3-Day Rule: Something that I see far too often on the dating scene is the dreaded 3-day rule. That is when you get a girl’s phone number and wait three days to text her. Why this is a problem is because, if you have just gotten a girl’s phone number after one meeting, then it’s unrealistic to think that that one interaction had the staying power to make a woman keep thinking about you. By day two, she has probably filed you away in her swing and a miss pile or she knows that you’re playing the 3-day rule because it’s been around for so long. A good rule of thumb is to wait no more than a day. You’re trying to build attraction and you need to build on your momentum. That is why waiting three days leaves too much space for her to move on. 2. The Bore: The second mistake that I see all too often is the boring, meaningless text. That is the, “sup?” “How’s it hangin?” those type of texts that don’t really light a fire under anyone’s butt to respond and are, quite frankly, pretty useless in building attraction. This is the equivalent to the people that are uncomfortable in awkward silences and have to fill it with nonsense. The solution to this is to text when you feel like it and to try and come up with something that will draw her in. You want a conversation hook. One way to do that is you could say, “Did I see you at the New Youths show last night at Element?” Even if you didn’t see her, this way you can open up a conversation about your night, and even your music taste. This is a subtle way to bypass the hi-how-are-you line of texting and jump right into your interests ie. Taste in music. If you want to learn a little bit more about texting and building attraction, head over to katespring.com/free and get a copy of my attraction building handbook, which is completely free if you didn’t already catch that! 3. The destitute dude: The destitute dude is the needy guy who continues to text when his previous texts have gone unanswered. This is not a good look for a man or woman. It comes off too strong. It’s like having someone breathing down your neck. And it does not lead to attraction. It leads to ghosting. I’ll never forget the time I went on a date with a man and what happened after. The date went really well, at first, I was attracted to him, we had the same interests, he was charming, and funny. Pretty much everything that you’d want out of a first date. After the date, I was really excited to see him again until he messaged me directly after the date probably 7 times saying how much he enjoyed himself and he was trying to make plans with me 2 months in advance. I was quite turned off at this point. It felt like he wanted to skip the dating and wooing part of courtship and just fast forward into a long-term relationship. Not only was he texting me no-stop, but he was also planning out future together after one date! Suffice it to say that I did not see him again and that the incessant texting didn’t stop for quite some time after. Don’t be that guy. One way to combat this is to follow the 2:1 ratio. For every two text messages you send, do not respond until she has replied. This way you don’t come off too strong. And the second thing to do is to wait approximately the same time that she took to respond. Yes, this is a game, but at the beginning of any relationship it’s important to keep the power in a state of balance. And not show your eagerness or desperation. That will kill any chance you have at building some intense attraction with a woman. 4. The Show Off: Alright, our fourth and final no-no in texting is showing off over text. Because tone is very hard to convey over text, I wouldn’t try and take the douchey-joke approach because that can, and usually does, come off at just being an ass. More at: http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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http://www.katespring.com -- How to Approach a Woman Hey guys, my name is Kate Spring, and I'm going to share with you some tips on how to approach a woman you like. There are many methods out there from cheesy pick-up lines to aggressive peacocking, but that’s not what I have for you here. In my experience, the most effective way a man has caught my attention is by shifting the focus onto me and making me feel like I am the most interesting person in the world, or at least in the room. I can't give you one simple recipe to make a woman instantly be into you. However, I can, from personal experience, help you learn to approach a woman in a way that she will want to continue a conversation with you. Here are three ways to accomplish this: Be light, be curious, and be confident. Before we get started, if you have any questions, please leave them in the comments below, and I’ll be sure to get back to you as soon as I can. Here we go, my first piece of advice is to be light. People, like moths, are attracted to light. And I’m not talking about holding a lamp up to every girl you like. What I mean is be light hearted, and don’t take things too seriously. The first interactions are crucial for creating a positive impression that leaves her wanting more of you. Women are generally attracted to men who aren’t overly critical of other people. And men who are comfortable enough in their own skin that they can laugh at themselves. Humor is a huge part of attraction. Now, I'm not saying you have to be the next Jerry Seinfeld, but some semblance of a sense of humour is very attractive in men. Laughter also alleviates stress in any first meeting jitters.
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- How To Keep A Woman Interested In You Hey guys, welcome back to my channel. For those of you who are new, welcome! I’m Kate Spring, a dating and relationship coach from the West Coast of Canada and today I want to share with you some of the easiest ways that you can keep a woman interested in you when you’ve just started seeing each other. Before we get started, as always, make sure that you subscribe to my channel, if you haven’t already, and post all of your questions and comments in the comments section below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. Quick question, when you’re trying to spark a woman’s interest, do you give her all of your attention? Or do you make her miss you by playing a little hard to get? Take the poll and let’s see what the majority is up to. In order for you to keep a woman interested in you, we need to look a very specific component of attraction, and for women, one of the driving forces of attraction is building an emotional connection. When you first meet a woman, and you’re getting to know one another, it’s great to have similarities. Seeing if you have similar interests, hobbies, taste in books, television, and movies, etc. That is all great. Sharing similar interests on these topics is a great foundation upon which to build a friendship, but building an emotional connection will aid in boosting attraction and contribute to longevity in a relationship. So how do you make the right kind of connection with a woman that goes deeper than the surface? You do so by drawing parallels between your lives, which can include your family, friends, motivations, and values, etc. These is the stimulus that lure women in to your charm. Connections aren’t built on surface material, they happen when we’re able to dig deep with people in a way that doesn’t seem pushy, invasive or probing. Which has a lot to do with conversation, body language and confidence. 1. Have the confidence to be yourself: The best thing that you can do before you begin to make a connection with a woman is to have the confidence to be yourself. Nothing says thirsty quite like trying to please everyone. The need to be liked by everyone is a noble aspiration, but an unrealistic one. In dating, one of the best qualities that you can have in your arsenal is being somewhat self-assured, which means that you’re confident in your character and abilities. Having a pleasurable, strong, and amazing connection with someone, or anyone, is dictated by your relationship with yourself. If you are always trying to fit in and please everyone around you, your real self might get lost along the way. So be yourself because the authentic version of yourself is going to be the version of you that thrives and attracts the most genuine interest from women. 2. Ask Open Ended Questions: If you want women to open up to you and connect, you have to ask the right questions. Conversation is key here. When you’re trying to get to know a woman, asking questions like, “what do you do for work?” is a great place to start. But where conversations remain on the surface level is if it goes on to describe the facts about a person’s job. Say your girl is a nurse and you ask her what hospital she works at, and then what floor, and/or specialization that she has. Instead, ask her why she got into nursing. Find out her reason for choosing that field and you will get a clearer insight into this woman’s values and motivations in life. She will also feel more comfortable talking and sharing with you when she feels like you are genuinely interested in her with your unique line of questioning. Another great way to build connections is to talk about your family and friends and comment on similarities. If she says something about how her best friend is really into cross fit, or her friend is vegetarian, you could say the phrase, “that reminds me of…” and then you draw a parallel to your life. Your response could look something like this, “Oh, no way. My brother is really into crossfit. He’s always trying to make me try it.” With that being said, it’s important for you to understand the idea of give and take. You want to give a woman your full attention when you’re face to face as well as information, but what you don’t want to do is overdo it, which is where a lot of men falter. You see, part of being confident is knowing that attraction and keeping a woman interested in you takes time to achieve. If you want to learn more about keeping a woman interested over text, head over to katespring.com/free and get yourself a copy of my free More at: http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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http://www.KateSpring.com -- 6 Signs She's Not Into You Have you ever been in a situation where you cannot tell for the life of you whether or not the woman you have spent so much money and time on is interested in you??? I'm Kate Spring, and I'm here to share 6 signs that she’s not into you. Too many people are passive aggressive and have a serious inability to face their problems head on. When I was young, I would have preferred to write a Chemistry exam than to talk openly about my feelings. And, unfortunately, too many women are still like this today. It's not malicious. It's more of an act of self-preservation because we genuinely don't want to hurt people's feelings, and we surely do not want to deal with the guilt that follows rejecting someone. So I'm going to share 6 ways you can tell she's not into you. I'd say the first sign that a woman is not interested in you is if she isn't responding to your texts. This is the MOST passive aggressive way to let someone know you're not interested. Ghosting is such a shitty habit of our generation How have we evolved to such a place where this is now considered normal? If you’re not familiar with ghosting, it is the act of just not responding to someone. Urban Dictionary defines it as “fading, or quietly disappearing from someone’s life and cutting off all communication.” Horrendous. And If you yourself do this, don’t. Have more respect for people and their time. Ok, rant over. Another way to tell if she isn’t interested in you, which you can tell through text messages, is if her answers are short. If her texting is like those one-word fridge magnet poems where you just piece one word together after another. And getting a full sentence out of her takes longer than reading the Harry Potter series in its entirety, then she is not interested in you, and you would find your time better spent finding someone else. Another way to tell that she isn’t into you, which is even worse than ghosting, is if she makes out with someone else. This happens in dating today, and it is a very key thing to look for. As well, it doesn’t matter how drunk she claims she was. She is not thinking about you or your feelings; therefore, move on. Plain and simple. Involved in a go-nowhere relationship, having drank himself into indifference, I had this pulled on me once. The guy I was seeing started having a dance floor make out session. My response was brief: "See you later, see you never." Needless to say, I felt like shit and had to have a serious sit down talk with myself about the type of person I wanted to be with. It started with understanding that I had missed all of the signs and had refused to let my situation speak until I needed to hear it as a scream! I know that they say that love is blind, but, in the early stages, before your heart is invested, make sure that she is into you as much as you are into her. And that means reading the signs. If you want to avoid situations like I just mentioned, head over to katespring.com/free and grab a free copy of my attraction building handbook, which will help you get any girl you want and keep her interested. That’s katespring.com/free. And you will find the link in the details below. The third sign that she isn’t into you is if she hasn’t introduced you to any of her friends. This might be because she's embarrassed of you or sees no future with you. Or her friends just suck or maybe she just sucks? Regardless, move one. If someone doesn’t want to show you off, then I think we are entering the friend zone, or maybe she is just not into you. The fourth sign is a lack of eye contact. If she does not look you in the eye, you have a serious problem. Eye contact has to do with our level of comfort in a situation. If we lack eye contact, or it is sporadic, then that is usually a sign that someone is uncomfortable, whereas if someone has strong eye contact, then that usually means that they are comfortable. And, plus, if a woman likes you, she will look at you and probably won’t be able to take her eyes off of you. Do you guys have any questions yet? No, well when you do, don’t forget to leave them in the comments below. Ok, the fifth sign that tells you that you should abort the mission is if she puts no effort into her looks. Most of the time, women will dress up for any situation where the two of you are hanging out. It is a way for her to show you that she is interested in you without having to say it. So if she is putting little to no effort in, I think you have entered the friend zone, my friend.
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- How To Get Women To Approach You Hey YouTube! How are you? I hope you’re doing well! I’m Kate Spring, a dating and relationship coach from the west coast of Canada. If you’re new to my channel, welcome, and if you’re a repeat offender, welcome back! Today, I have a really interesting topic to share with you. It’s one that I’ve thought a lot about and that is how to get a woman to approach you. It’s a simple theory called preselection, by which you actually select the woman that you want to approach you. “Preselection” is a principle that dictates that women are more attracted to men that seem attractive to other women. In order to apply this power principle, you must demonstrate that you are preselected by other women. Before we get into that, I need to give you a little more context. But before that, I want to remind you to subscribe to my channel by ringing the little bell where you can then leave any of your comments and/or questions in the comments section below. Quick question for you guys, do you believe that women are more attracted to men who appear to be taken and/or who are coveted by other women? Take the poll and let’s see what you guys think? And I’ll answer if later on in the video. In economics, there is a law called supply and demand. This theory explains the relationship between the supply of a resource and the demand for that resource. It looks at the resource’s availability and how that availability affects the value of that resource. If the supply is high, then, generally, the demand is low and the price is weak. Conversely, when the demand is high and the supply is low then the price increases. I like to apply this law to dating in that when you, the resource, make yourself readily available to women, you decrease your value. You appear desperate. However, when you don’t make yourself readily available, you increase the demand for your time and ultimately increase your dating value. You’re seen as rare and valuable Psychology and business professor Robert Cialdini has researched extensively how scarcity works in persuasion, which we can apply to attraction. Cialdini is well-known for his book called Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion. And in this book, he outlines 6 universal principles on how to master the art of persuasion. These 6 principles are: reciprocity, commitment, social proof, authority, liking, and lastly scarcity. For the purpose of this video, there are two principles that I want to look at, and they are social proof and scarcity. Social proof means that people will do things that they see other people doing. And scarcity means that the perceived rarity of a resource will generate demand. What does this have to do with attraction and getting women to approach you? Well, it actually has everything to do with it. You see, it’s fine and dandy for me to tell you to be a man of value, which will, in turn, make you more attractive in women’s eyes. But how do you go about becoming that man? You do so by applying this theory of preselection. You make women attracted to you by showing that there are other women interested in you first. When you increase your demand, you increase your value. And social behavior proves this that in terms of persuasion, people will do and like things that they see other people doing and liking as well. Women are attracted to guys to whom other women are attracted. Women judge your attractiveness based on the way other women view you. It’s kind of crazy, but you know that old saying, “women want what they can’t have.” In a way, that applies here. I should mention that this is not all women, but a lot of women unconsciously respond and make judgements about a man’s attractiveness based on how other women respond to him. More at: http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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----------------------Go to: http://www.KateSpring.com/FREE ------------------------ --------------------Go Watch My Free Full Video Presentation!--------------------- Hey there, and welcome to my channel! Or welcome back! I’m Kate Spring, a dating and relationship coach from the west coast of Canada. And for this video, I want to touch on a topic that has come up a lot in conversation and that is the idea of “Game.” What is it and how do you get it? For a long time, even I thought that game was this thing that only certain men were born with, but in reality, it’s just charisma. And what is charisma? Charisma is compelling attractiveness or charm that can inspire devotion in others. That sounds pretty sweet, doesn’t it? Charisma, and or Game, is actually not some innate feature that a select few are born with, but It is developed by practicing and acquiring new behavioral skills. So what are these skills required to improve your game or create it out of scratch? Before I give you the deets, I just want to remind you to leave any questions that come up for you in the comments section below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. And don’t forget to subscribe to my channel where you’ll be updated every time that I release a new video. 1. Take Initiative: Alright, so the first step in improving your game is to take initiative. Initiative is the ability to assess and initiate things independently. When a man takes initiative in his life this shows a woman that you are self-assured and that you know what you want and that you go after it. You’re active in getting what you want because you aren’t afraid of what other people think about you. So, in a sense, this shows confidence. So stop asking for a girls number, stop asking her to dance. Instead, pose it as a statement, “let me grab your number” or “let’s dance!” Be confident in what you want and go after it. That’s a man that women want to be around. Now, with this, it’s important to understand that while you should take initiative, you should NOT be pushy. If a woman is apprehensive and her body language is indicating that she is uncomfortable, then do not push her. Make it playful and fun. But understand when no means no. Consent is a huge topic right now and I want to make sure that you understand that when I say take initiative I don’t mean to ignore the non-verbal signals that women send when they’re uninterested And creating connections and finding similarities between your life and a girl that you’re just getting to know is key in making her keen on getting to know you and spend more time with you. 3. Posture/ body language: One of the best ways to exude charisma is through your body language. The way that you carry yourself says a lot about a person. Something that I was taught pretty early on was to act as if you belong in any room that you enter. Even if you feel like a complete fish out of water flopping around hopelessly, FAKE IT! The best things that you can do to fake it are to stand tall and take up space. Make eye contact, smile, and open up your body to the people with whom you’re engaging. That is the posture of a guy with charisma and game. The guy that is approachable and makes people feel comfortable when they’re around him. And Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Mistakes humanize people, which makes them more likeable. Nobody wants to top toe around a perfect person. That’s not a realistic way to live your life. And if you’re anxious, just know that that means that you’re spending too much time thinking about what will, might or could happen, when you should just focus on the moment. Anxiety is over thinking the future, and wanting to know exactly how something will play out before you can even attempt to try, but that’s not how life works. So enjoy in the moment and try your best. Fake it till you become it. 4. Sense of humor: And last but not least, have a sense of humor. Don’t be afraid to laugh make jokes. Laughter relaxes people, and when people feel relaxed around you they feel comfortable around you therefore will want to spend more time with you. And those are four behavioral skills that you can employ in your life to become the most charismatic version of yourself and immediately improve your game. Alright, you guys, that’s all I have for you today. Make sure that you subscribe to my channel where you can stay up to date with my latest videos. And if you like what you’ve learned here please give it a thumbs up. As always, thank you for your constant support! And I’ll see you in my next video.
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- How to Master Small Talk and Control the Conversation Hey YouTube, how’s it going? Some of you might be familiar with me, but if you’re not, I’m Kate Spring and I’m a dating and relationship coach from the west coast of Canada. And in this video, I want to help your dating game in the conversation department, more specifically, I want to help you to master small talk and explain some ways that you can learn how to control the conversation. Just before we get started, remember that if you have any questions please leave them in the comments section below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. There is something so sexy about a man who can dominate a conversation and can elevate it from ordinary to extraordinary in a matter of words. Typical small talk looks something like this, “How are you?” “What do you do for work?” “Where are you from?” Sadly, women and men are too familiar with this boring line of questioning when they meet. The job interview type questions. This kind of mind dulling small talk comes from a place of nervousness. And when you’re nervous in front of a hot woman, your brain turns to mush, and your mouth starts spewing what you’ve been conditioned to understand as appropriate get-to-know-you-banter. The problem here is that it doesn’t excite a woman to get to know where you work either. However, there is an elevated version of small talk that you can master in order to get to know women quicker and in a more exciting way by just changing what you ask her. Thankfully, there are steps that you can take to improve your small talk game and, subsequently, can take charge of the conversation. The first step is to approach the right woman. Don’t go up to the woman that has a resting bitch face and her arms crossed. That woman’s body language is either saying, “I have a boyfriend,” or “I’m not interested.” Look for the girl in a group of people that is smiling, seems appriachable, has an open body posture and is looking around the room. That is someone whose attention you can capture. I know, I know, small talk is a pain in the ass. Some people despise it and avoid it at all costs, but the good news is that the better you are at it, the easier it becomes, and the more powerful personality you will have. It’s not only a key skill to master for dating, but it is also a skill worth having to be successful in all interpersonal relationships. Along with small talk is learning how to build attraction, and for more information on that, head over to katespring.com/free and get a copy of my attraction building handbook for free! There you will learn how to build attraction through texting and through body language, this will also help you in conversations. That’s katespring.com/free and I’ve posted a link in the description below. Alright, when you first approach a woman, do you think to yourself, “Wow, I wonder where that girl is from…” Or, “Wow, I wonder what that woman does for work…” The chances are that you approached her because something about her physically is attractive to you and you’d like to start a conversation that makes her interested in getting to know you even better. The answers to the job interview questions don’t really matter when you first meet her. You can find out her middle name and her childhood dog’s name later on. But for now, when you first meet her, focus on getting to know her personality and what excites her. And having a conversation that will make her interested in talking to you again in the future. You know that person who says, “I hate small talk”; they are on the losing team. And they only dislike it because they are the worst perpetrators of mind-numbing small talk—not the people like you and I who engage in titillating small talk. Now for some conversation starter examples. Your goal in mastering small talk is to first get any girl’s attention and keep it on you. That way you gain control of the conversation and, subsequently, the situation. This is the best formula to get the results that you want. And it’s an entertaining way to get to know someone. Here are some example questions to ask a woman you just met. It’s safe to start off with asking her name and once you get through some of the niceties of chatting up women, you can start to ask her some more interesting question, here are a couple of examples that will spice up any converation. More: http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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3 Texts To Send Your Ex-Girlfriend (And Win Her Back) -- http://www.katespring.com/exback Hey there, YouTube! Welcome to this video. My name is Kate Spring, and I’m a relationship and dating coach. Some of you may know me and some of you may not. If you don’t, now you do, and hopefully your life will be different after this video. Alright, a lot of people have been contacting me to create some videos or articles on getting your ex back. So I thought I would deliver the goods in this video. Some of you might have already seen my more in depth video on how to get you ex back. But, today, I have a video solely devoted to texting your ex back. I’m going to outline a few text messages to send to your ex-girlfriend to win her back. So let’s get started. Before we get started, if you have any questions, please leave them in the comments section below, and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. Okay, so first of all let’s cover some things to avoid when texting your ex. First, avoid texting her right after the breakup. Give her and yourself some room to breathe. Don’t blow up her phone with sappy messages saying how much you miss her or beg her to take you back! Avoid sending her mean messages telling her that you never loved her anyways or that she isn’t all that pretty and that you prefer your ex before her. This is just adding fuel to the fire and will make getting back together that much more difficult. Avoid the how’s it going text. You know, “Hey, how have you been?” text. That’s a dull and forgettable message that she will probably skim over and one that warrants a one word answer. In order to get your ex back, you need to excite her again. You need to create that feeling that if she doesn’t hear from you soon, she will scream, if not cry! The next thing to cover is when to text your ex and that is ideally after you have completed a one month period of no contact. The rule of absence. What is the rule of absence? I’m glad you asked. I’ll briefly outline it for you. The rule of absence is to become absent in your ex’s life for a period of about a month or so where you have zero contact with your ex. That means no phone calls, no texting, no emailing, no sliding into her dms, no matching with her on Tinder, no liking her Instagram pictures, no watching her Snap Chat stories, no commenting on her Facebook pictures or connecting through Facebook messenger. This is important because it gives your ex space to miss you and to heal from the breakup, and it also lets you get some clarity on the situation for yourself. You know that saying, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” The rule of absence allows your ex to romanticize your past relationship and have more positive, happier thoughts on the matter. Not ones of resentment or sorrow. This gives you each time to heal any wounds that your breakup caused. It’s important to have a clear goal in mind and work towards that. Do not get side tracked or take short cuts! They will work against you and all your hard work. And your goal is not to talk to her for a month, which might drive her crazy, but, in the end, that will create an anticipation in her to want to hear from you. The best time to start texting your ex back is after the no contact period when enough time has passed that your... ** READ MORE: http://www.katespring.com/exback -----------
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HOW TO TURN WOMEN ON -- http://www.KateSpring.com Hey guys, Kate Spring here, and I have some more dating advice to share with you. A lot of you have been asking me what turns women on? Great question, and there are many things that turn women on as we are susceptible to touch, smell, sight, sound, and taste. The use of our 5 senses are key to our arousal, but one of the most overlooked aspects about turning women on is to get her out of her own head. In this video, I will share five ways to turn a woman on. It is important to remember that because we women rely heavily on our senses, the more of them you can stimulate the better. Just before we get started, if you are interested in more advice like this or just have any questions, subscribe to my channel and leave me a comment below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. Step one in turning a woman on is getting her out of her own head. You can do this by making her feel comfortable and relaxed. We spend a lot of time in our heads thinking, stressing, just overall worrying, which takes away from time with you. If you can make her laugh and feel carefree by some act of spontaneity, then I’m sure you can get her out of her head, and she will be thankful you did. This isn’t an impossible task only accomplished through Jedi mind tricks; it’s actually very simple, and these next few moves will help you in getting her out of her own head and focus her attention on you. Step two in turning a woman on is to take control of the situation. Because women can be in their head so much, when a man takes control and we don’t have to think or make a decision, we are jolted into reality and the present moment. You might be asking yourself, what does she mean by take control? By taking control, I mean invite her to get dressed and that you’re going out for dinner, don’t ask her, tell her. Have confidence in your conviction, even if it flops. We appreciate effort more than anything. However, taking control does not mean giving commands; it means offering positive suggestions. “Hey, let’s go out tonight. Dinner’s on me!” Step number three is to be.... ** MORE: http://www.katespring.com/free
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----------------------Go to: http://www.KateSpring.com/FREE ------------------------ --------------------Go Watch My Free Full Video Presentation!--------------------- Hey there and welcome back to my channel. Those if you don’t know me, my name is Kate Spring. And I’m in dating and relationship coach from the west coast of Canada. As you can tell by the title of this video, we’re going to talk about how to flirt without being creepy. Before we get into the details, make sure that you subscribe to my channel where you will be notified every time I release new video. You can also leave all of your questions and comments in the comment section below and I will get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. 1. The “You-Caught-Me” Glance: The first point of contact to make with any woman with whom you’re trying to flirt is to make eye contact. Or, the best way to get her attention is to get caught checking her out or glancing at her. Try to do this subtly, you’re glancing at her, not staring at her. So do a quick glance. After she catches your first glance, give her a little nod. And after the second glance, smile like an “oopsie, you caught me checking you out. Why I want you to establish eye contact first is to ensure that she meets your eye contact. Eye contact’s purpose is to establish mutual interest. I’m not saying that just because a woman makes eye contact with you means that she wants to sleep with you, no, what I’m saying is that she could be interested in you if you’ve made this connection, at the very least, you could approach her and see what happen. 2. Mirror Her Posture to Build Rapport: Remember that flirting is a response to attraction. And attraction is evoking interest, pleasure or liking for someone. So what else can you do to persuade a woman with whom you’ve never met that you’re the best candidate with whom to flirt and maybe even sleep with? 3. Compliment: Our third tip in learning how to flirt without creeping women out is to look at the topic of conversation. Pick-up lines are a thing of the past, but compliments are the way of the future. The thing about flirting is that it is all about making the other person feel good by giving them attention and asking them questions. one way to give them positive attention is to compliment a woman on something that she has chosen. If you’ve watched any of my other videos, then you will know that I am a firm believer in a good compliment on something that a woman has chosen to wear, or the way that she has chosen to style her hair or to compliment her on something that she has worked on. Compliments make people feel good about themselves when they’re around you. And as Maya Angelou once said, “people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” And that is a statement that I personally live by. 4. Gentle Touches: Psychologist Dr. Nicolas Guéguen in his essay “Courtship Compliance: The Effect of Touch On Women’s Behavior” suggests that there is research to prove that light tactile contact increases compliance to a wide variety of requests. He conducted three experiments in three different locations. Each one, however, had two different approaches, a man approaching a woman and gently touching her and another encounter when a man approached a woman and made no physical contact. The results were that women were more attracted to men who engaged in gentle, momentary, tactile touching because it made them seem more dominant. So use touch to your advantage. Playfully touch a woman to deepen your flirtatious connection. Tickling is one of the oldest flirting methods in the book, you can touch a woman’s arm to get her attention, place your hand at the small of her back to guide her somewhere. Find quick friendly ways to make physical contact with a woman to better your flirting experience. 5. Have Fun: And my last piece of advice when flirting is to remember to have fun. Take it slow so that you aren’t showing all of your cards at once. Give a little and then see what you get in return flirt wise from a girl. But flirting is also a mindset, so please, please, please, remember to have fun with it because if you aren’t having any fun, neither will the girl with whom you’re trying to flirt. So go forth and prosper! I hope that you’ve enjoyed what you learned in this video. If you did, give it a thumbs up and don’t forget to subscribe to my channel. And I’ll see you in my next video!
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- How To Be The Bad Boy Women Want (Without Being A Dick!) Hey YouTube, I’m Kate Spring; dating and relationship coach from Victoria BC. And I’m here to share with you a few tips to help you become the bad boy that women want. Without going through an identity crisis. We’ve all seen those movies and TV shows about the misunderstood misfit who drives women crazy. I’m talking about the Hans Solos, Ryan Atwoods, and the James Deans. The infamous bad boy persona that has captivated women for centuries. I’m Here to help you accomplish this, but without turning you into a total dick. Because that’s just a poor foundation for any relationship. Before we get started, if you guys have any questions, be sure to leave them in the comments section below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. Also, don’t forget to click that subscribe button where you can see more videos to help you become the guy that women want. Ok, the number one thing that you can do to become the bad boy that women swoon over, is to be confident. Confidence is tricky because some people have it, some people don’t, and some people fake it super well. If confidence isn’t one of your strong suits, then I suggest you spend some time cultivating some. Or at least pretend you do. Part of being confident is being calm. By allowing the situation to just be. Limiting your expectations is a good place to start. We never want to seem like we are defeated. Another part of being confident is being resilient. When we are resilient we realize that we actually control the situation and our reaction to it. Say for example that you have just met a woman that you know you like, and you spill your drink on her or near her or on yourself. Whatever the situation is, don’t freak out. Instead of losing your composure, grab a cloth, offer to wipe it up, or let her do it herself. Regardless, apologize once and then move on. Be resilient. You could also make a witty joke if it was something you spilled on yourself. Going with the flow is a very attractive quality of the bad boy, and once you employ this attitude into your life, you will be better off for it! Being resilient is also important in rejection. Rejection happens, but the fear of rejection is worse than rejection itself. So let that shit slide off of your back. For more tips on how to be the bad boy and to seduce women, head over to katespring.com/free and pick up a copy of my free ebook. It’s titled The attraction building handbook and I’m sure you can guess what it entails. You’ll find your free copy at katespring.com/free. After we’ve mustered up some confidence, the next thing to understand about the bad boy is how they play the game of who cares less. I’m not telling you not to care, no, but the bad boy has this way of always caring the least, which makes women chase him. I’m not preaching for you to be indifferent, please do care about people and the woman you are pursuing, but it is just how you show it. This just means that you care about yourself a little more than you care about what other people think about you. You might be wondering why bad boys are so successful in the art of seduction? That is because they have a mentality of take it or leave it. Now this is a good act of self-preservation, but it is really no way to live your life. Some bad boys just have commitment issues so they remain detached from people. Women do this too. So part of being the bad boy is also finding the girl who isn’t afraid of commitment. Think of yourself as number one. Well, because, it’s your life. You should be number one, especially if you’re single and seeking. You can be respectful and somewhat detached. You don’t want to waste any one’s time and you especially don’t want your time wasted, so when we make our intentions clear they are hopefully reciprocated or we can just move on. As much as courting and relationships seem like games, it really isn’t. And you would be well advised to curb the games early on, or just move on. My final piece of advice on becoming the bad boy that women want is have an even blend of being naughty and nice. You want to avoid at all costs being a douche canoe. That won’t get you far, and might just get you a swift slap across the face. But you also don’t want to be too nice. You still want her to chase you. relationships aren’t one sided and neither should pursuing women. But to be the bad boy you have to toe a fine line between being a good guy at heart and exuding some bad boy behaviour. That bad boy behaviour is being independent, confident and resilient. With these simple steps you will not only become the bad boy that women fawn over, but you will also become the best, most confident version of yourself. More: http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- 5 Secret Physiological Ways To Tell A Girl Is Into You Have you ever noticed a chick staring at you and wondered what she was thinking? Does she think you’re cute? Has she spotted some leftover lettuce in your teeth from lunch? If your fly is down? Trying to tell if a woman likes you by looking at her is like trying to teach your cat a backflip. Pretty unrealistic. Women have mastered the art of mixed signals and playing hard to get. So trying to tell if a woman likes you just by a glance is a pretty difficult, if not impossible, feat. Women will, however, send subtle signs that indicate that they’re interested in you with more than just a look. And that is what this video is all about: The subtle physiological signs that let you know what a woman is thinking about you. Hey guys, for those of you who don’t know me -- I’m Kate Spring. A dating and relationship coach from the west coast of Canada. If you’re new to my channel, welcome. And for those of your returning, welcome back. Before I dive into the nitty gritty details of this video, be sure to subscribe to my channel and ring the little bell where you can stay up to date with my latest videos and you can then leave all of your questions in the comments section below. Quick question, how do you usually tell if a woman likes you? If she looks at you? or if she smiles at you? Take the poll and let’s see how you all tell if someone likes you. If you haven’t got a clue, relax because women have been encouraged to be coy and play hard to get for centuries with the notion that romantic uncertainty increases attraction, and it does. But don’t remain uncertain. There are signs that give a clear indication of interest because today body language is a topic widely observed and studied. In fact, we’re now able to interpret slight changes in a woman’s body that can reveal her true feelings and motivations. Unlocking the mystery of a woman’s attraction can be as simple as looking for these 5 physiological indicators of interest. 1. Her pupils dilate when she speaks to you: You know the saying that “the eyes are the window to the soul.” I think it should be, “the eyes are the window to the libido.” I once thought that this was a fallacy, a myth circulated by one of the original pick up artists, but, upon looking more deeply into the topic, I was pleasantly surprised that there is considerable research that supports the idea that there is a biological response to attraction. The studies found that our pupils dilate up to three times the regular size when we see something stimulating, exciting or interesting in order to take in more of the pleasing surrounding. In fact, women in 16th century Italy would take this medicine named “belladonna,” which would keep their pupils dilated because dilated pupils were seen as more attractive and seductive. It follows, then, that when you want to tell if a woman likes you, see if her pupils are dilated when she’s talking to you. It’s also important to note here that if you’re in a dark room, her pupils will enlarge as a simple fact that there is not enough light in the room. So try to see it in different lighting. 2. Her feet are crossed: One of the physiological ways to tell that a woman is interested in you, not that she wants to marry and have children with you, but that she’s interested in at least talking to you, if she is standing facing you and her feet are crossed. When someone is uncomfortable their feet generally don’t point towards the person with whom they’re speaking. Their feet tend to point away, and only their torso is facing their conversation partner. Subconsciously, their feet are preparing for them to exit the conversation. However, on the flip side of this, when someone’s feet are pointed towards you, that means that they are engaged in the conversation and are in no rush to get away. And an even better sign is when a woman’s feet are crossed. When her feet are crossed, it’s much harder to make a quick getaway. This is a sign that a woman is essentially planting herself in this spot and is engaged in her conversation with you, which is a great sign. So look at her feet, are they pointed towards you, or are they crossed? If so, take note that this is a subconscious response that she is interested in you and this interaction. More at: http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- Is She Flirting Or Just Being Friendly Hey guys, welcome to this video and to my channel! I’m Kate Spring and today I want to help you to distinguish between whether or not a woman is actually flirting with you or if she is just being friendly. Before I lay out all of the details, don’t forget to subscribe to my channel where you’ll be notified every time I release a new video. And you can leave all of your questions in the comments section below. Now, I’ve been meaning to ask, do you guys think that women flirt with sexual intentions or just for fun? Take the poll and let’s see what you guys think. Have you ever been hanging out with a girl and you think that she’s giving you all the signs that she’s totally into you, but when you lean in for the kiss she backs away and says that she just sees you as a friend and that doing anything else would complicate the situation? Ouch. After a reaction like that, you’re embarrassed and confused as to how you could have misinterpreted her signals that you clearly thought was her flirting. For women, often times, there is a very thin line that separates flirting from being friendly. And more often than not, women will flirt just for the sake of flirting, with no sexual motivation behind it. I know, how annoying! Flirting is actually defined as behaving as though attracted to or trying to attract someone, but for amusement rather than with serious intention. Yikes, can you say mixed signals? Women can flirt just for fun without any sexual intention behind it because women genuinely believe that men and women can be friends. Even when they constantly flip flop between being friendly and actually flirting. To aid you in making the distinction, I’ve isolated some ways for you to tell if a woman is flirting with you. I should also mention that you should keep an eye out for more than one of these examples when trying to decipher if she’s truly flirting or just being friendly. 1. Find Her Threshold For Flirting: The first thing that I would suggest you do is to observe her threshold for flirtatious behavior. Observe her around other men, and especially her guy friends. If she is touchy feely, joking and overly playful with them, then chances are that if she is acting the same way around you, she is just being friendly. Find out her norm first, find out what her personality is like in other interactions so that you can make a judgment about whether or not she is flirting or just being friendly. If she treats you like everyone else in her circle or everyone else that she encounters, then chances are she is just a nice girl who is trying to be friendly. And, obviously, on the contrary, if she is acting different around you, laughing more, flipping her hair, touching you whenever she can, and she’s not like that around her friends, then she could be trying to seduce you. But find out how she interacts in different scenarios and with different people before you try and decipher if a woman is flirting or not. 2. Instigating Conversation: Another way to tell if a woman is flirting with you is if she is instigating conversation. There is a big difference between answering questions and prompting questions and conversation. If a woman is just answering questions with a yes or a no and not adding anything else voluntarily, then she’s just being friendly. Conversation is a big indication into whether or not a woman is flirting. In this department, I should mention that if a woman is being overly polite and proper with you, chances are she is just being friendly. Most women don’t take the time to converse and genuinely get to know men with whom they have no interest. Or if a woman constantly asks you to repeat yourself, then she’s just not listening to you, which means she not being flirty, and she’s not even being that friendly. In non- face to face communication, if a woman responds to your texts or phone calls in a timely manner and with more than one word, and again, is instigating conversation, then she could be trying to flirt with you and make a connection. If you want to learn some more secret body language tricks that actually attract women, then head over to katespring.com/free and grab a free copy of my attraction building handbooks, which covers topics on body language and texting a girl. And you can get your free copy at katespring.com/free. More at: http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free -- Doing THIS Will Make You Instantly More Attractive Hey YouTube, Kate Spring here. I’m a dating and relationship coach for men from the west coast of Canada. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how a man can become INSTANTLY more attractive to women, and I think I’ve come up with just the thing! Actually, I’ve come up with three things! Before we get started, remember that if you have any questions at all, please leave them in the comments below, and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can! Now, if you’ve watched my other videos, you’ll know that I stress having self-confidence. If you want to become attractive to women, confidence is the first thing you should have in your arsenal. But there are a couple other qualities that I think get left behind in the search for confidence, but ones that I will dedicate some time to on this video. Okay, so the first thing that you can do to become instantly more attractive is to be kind. You can consider this category to be chivalry or whatever you want. But, basically, if you are kind and respectful among a sea of douchebags, you will become instantly more attractive to women. I know what you’re thinking—nice guys finish last. Not necessarily the case. If you show a genuine interest in a woman and are kind and offer to buy her a cup of coffee or a drink without having any expectations from her, you will find that you are instantly becoming more attractive to her. Holding the door open for women falls under this category. I’d almost like to call kindness chivalry, but to me this is just respect. If you are respectful, she will notice. Women are used to some men doing things only to expect something in return. Like being nice to someone is tit-for-tat. If you build a relationship on kindness, you will not only make yourself happy, but you will also have a happy girlfriend. Do kind acts. Actions speak louder than words. And if your words are kind, and your actions match, women will be drawn to you. The second thing you can do to become instantly more attractive to women is to dress to impress. I’m not saying you have to have the nicest and most expensive clothes, but they should be clean and not wrinkled. Under the category of dressing well is personal hygiene. Clean yourself up! Women put so much effort into our appearance, and if you present yourself in a way that suggests you put some thought and/or effort into it, you will be more attractive to women. I guarantee it! Okay, when I was 19, I dated this guy. He will remain nameless. We’d been together for about a month and hadn’t really been on a proper date. So he suggested we go to a movie, that he chose, that I wasn’t fond of, but went anyways. He showed up stoned, in flip flops and cargo shorts, in the middle of a southern British Columbia winter—not dressed for the cold. As we go to get our tickets, he pays for himself and walks in, and I trail behind and pay for myself. Then he gets himself popcorn and lathers it in dill seasoning (I hate dill seasoning, which he knew). At that point, I should have had more balls than to put up with this, but, at the time, I was very young, and I didn’t really have a voice yet. Okay, so the date goes on, and we’re in the theater, and he smells like dill (peee yeeewww!), and he tried to kiss me. I was like no! I couldn’t do it. I have never felt more unwelcomed on a date or like I didn’t really need to be there at all. Oh, and I forgot to mention, he invited his buddies along too! Now I told you this as a kind of cautionary tale. You don’t want to make someone feel unwelcome or that you don’t care to be there at all. Your appearance says a lot about that. This story has my first and second point. Be kind, maybe hold the door open for her, or pay for her movie ticket, and maybe let her get the popcorn. Switch it up. And the second point is to put some effort into being there by dressing appropriately for it and/or showering. Dress like you’ve put some effort into it. Look good, smell good, and be kind. Again, I’m not saying you have to have the nicest, most expensive clothes, but they should be clean and shouldn’t look like you just picked them up off the floor. Your appearance is all about presentation and making a good impression. You don’t go to a restaurant and have food just thrown on the plate. No, you go for good tasting, quality food that is presented in an appealing way. Same thing in dating. If you’re interested in learning how to build some intense attraction with women, head over to katespring.com/free and grab a copy of my attraction handbook, which is completely free by the way! It covers a lot of methods on how to build attraction from texting to body language, so don’t forget to grab your free copy! For more: http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- How To Build Rapport with Women Hey there! My name is Kate Spring and I’m a dating and relationship coach from the west coast of Canada. As the title of this video suggests, we’re going to talk about some ways that you can build rapport with a woman. Rapport is an essential part of human interaction. It’s all about making a connection. If you’ve watched any of my other videos, you might have heard me talk about the importance of communication and that 93% of communication is non-verbal and only 7% of communication is verbal, which means that only 7% of the time that we spend conversing with people is affected by our words. Rapport is a form of communication. It’s communicating in such a way where the purpose is to build closeness. So here we’re not so focused on WHAT you say, but HOW you say it. Before we get any further, be sure to subscribe to my channel by ringing the bell below and be sure to leave all of your questions in the comments section below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. There are three ways that you can effectively build rapport through matching and mirroring. Those three things are to mirror and match: your posture, rhythm of breath, and tone. 1. Posture: What is your communication partner doing with her hands? Is she slouching or seated upright? Is she leaning in to you or leaning away from you? If she’s slouching, you probably shouldn’t sit completely erect. If she’s leaning in to you, then lean in to her, this is a sign of interest and comfort. Take note of a woman’s posture and gestures, and then match hers. I mean, use discretion here with all of this. If she runs her hands through her hair, don’t immediately do that same thing, you don’t want her to know that you’re miming her. Your goal is to synchronize your gestures so that a woman will feel like you are bonded. We’re attracted to people that are similar to us. 2. Rhythm of Breath: One of the most effective ways to build rapport with a woman is to harmonize your breath. Match her breathing. The purpose of doing this is to bond you. This can also be the tempo and volume at which your communication partner speaks. If she is speaking rather slowly and comfortably, it wouldn’t make sense for you to talk rapidly. Take note of how she’s breathing. Is she taking deep breaths from her diaphragm or is she taking short breaths from her chest. Whichever one she is doing, take note and try to adopt her way of breathing into your own. 3. Tone/ energy: Our last step is to match the tone and energy level of your speaker. The tone is the general character or attitude of a situation. If the girl that you’re talking to is soft spoken, it would make sense for you to match her tone and not over power her with a loud rambunctious one. This is subtle and it makes the other person feel comfortable and like they’re being understood. This is the most effective way to build rapport. It’s never really what you say, but it’s how you say it. If you say something horrendous, but do so in a joking or sarcastic tone, that changes the entire meaning of the message. However, if you say something horrendous with conviction, then the message is horrendous. For example, “I hate you!” “I hate you..”;) Tone is everything, so practice matching peoples tone and pace in your day to day conversations. That way, when you are trying to build rapport with a girl that you like, it will be much easier because you’ve had practice. Also, if your communication partner is introverted, it would not help for you to act as an extrovert. You want to make her feel comfortable by showing her that you and her are similar. And here the best way to do so is to highlight your similarities in your communication practices. Alright, you guys, once you manage to introduce the PRT Rapport Building System into your dating tool box, you’re well on your way to building a deep and lasting rapport with any woman that you want. This is how you build connections and ultimately attraction by creating a sense of similarity between the two of you and trust. That’s all I have for you today, YouTube! Thanks for tuning in and I’ll see you in my next video. ---For more tips on How to GET the Girl: www.katespring.com/FREE
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- How To Get Women To Approach You Hey there! And welcome to my channel. I’m Kate Spring, a dating and relationship coach from the West Coast of Canada and today I wanted to share a super-fast way that you can make a girl like you within the first 10 seconds of meeting her. No, this is not Jedi-Mind Tricks 101, but this is simple psychology. Before we get into our discussion, remember to subscribe so that you can leave all of your questions in the comments section below and I will be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. POLL: I’ve been thinking a lot about likeability and I was wondering if the majority of you think trust is a key factor in that? And if so, do you think trust Take the poll and let’s see what you guys think. There are some basic things that you should do in preparation to woo women. Those activities begin with the basics, and include bathing yourself and dressing for success. Get yourself looking and smelling fresh because that is the FIRST thing to which women pay attention. Have a shower, wash your hair, maybe even throw a comb through it if it’s long enough. And wash your clothes. Don’t go out and spend thousands of dollars on new clothes. Wear clothes that fit you but are clean. That is the prep work. Now, there is a secret system that I created that will make any woman like you within seconds of meeting her. And that means that this isn’t necessarily reliant on the words that what you speak. On the contrary, it is how you look, yes, look, and I mean that literally and figuratively. Let me explain. It takes less than two seconds for someone to make an opinion about you. According to a study done by the Harvard School of Health Sciences, this is true. The study conducted had students look at a 2 second video clip of a professor and make assumptions about this person’s character and likeability. These students, who only saw this professor for 2 seconds, came to the same conclusions as students who had been in this professor’s class for an entire semester. What can we learn from this? This shows me that we make snap judgments daily! So knowing that we actually decide if we like someone within two seconds of meeting them is crucial for you to know in your dating endeavors. When we like someone, we see the best in them. Let me repeat: We see the best in them. If a woman likes you within the first two seconds of meeting you, she will want to get to know you. At this point, you’re probably wondering what you can do to become instantly likeable! In Nicholas Boothman’s book How To Make People Like You In 90 Seconds Or Less, Boothman talks about how attitude, above all else, at the beginning of an encounter, will determine the result of that encounter about whether you succeed or fail. We respond to the attitude that comes through your body language. Your attitude determines how your non-verbal message will be received. Once you have the right attitude, it’s time to employ the LSO System. That is to Look, Smile, And Open up your body. 1. Look: Look a woman in the eye when you meet her. This is not only a sign of confidence, but it is also an indication that you’re a well-mannered man. In Western culture, if you were to look at the ground when you meet someone, that lack of eye contact is actually a sign of submission to your conversation partner. It automatically places you in an inferior position. Similarly, if your gaze is directed to someone else in the room when speaking to your conversation partner, you’re non-verbally saying to that partner, “you’re not important” or “I’m only half paying attention to you.” This dismissive attitude with not aid in a favorable outcome. So far, this is pretty straightforward information when we break it down, but it’s important to remember these things because they often can get lost in the immediacy of the moment, especially when we feel pressure to perform well. And it becomes even more the case when we’re meeting someone for the first time that we like and think is attractive. Tip: First things first: Make eye contact. 2. Smile When we first meet people, we immediately make a distinction about whether they are good or bad, what Nicholas Boothman says is, “are you charming or alarming?” Smiling is one of the key ways to make yourself charming and not alarming. Again, this all comes back to the attitude that your body is projecting. And smiling is one of, if not the easiest, ways to create a charming attitude. More at: http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- How To Make A Lasting First Impression For some people, making a first impression is easy. They just have “it,” that thing that makes people instantly attracted to them whether it is their self-confidence, sense of humor or just their looks. If this doesn’t come naturally to you, like it doesn’t for most, then please listen closely. I guess I should introduce myself, I’m Kate Spring, dating and relationship coach from Victoria, BC, and I’m here to share some helpful tips the next time you want to make a lasting first impression on a woman. Just before we get started, If you have any questions at all, please leave them in the comments section below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. The best first impressions I’ve encountered were from people who are engaged, smiling, dressed well, and complimented me. That might seem vain, but we’re all a little vain to some extent. And we love nothing more than to talk about ourselves. So go out when you are in the mood to mingle because if you don’t feel like being there, people can tell. Your body language pretty much gives you away in this arena. If you’re closed off, not smiling, not engaging with anyone, then chances are you seem highly unapproachable. And a good rule of thumb is if you go into a situation fixated on your own discomfort, that is the vibe you will give off. Instead, try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and try to understand that the truth of the matter is that they are probably as equally uncomfortable as you. Given this scenario, it is your job to be the engaging one to lighten the mood and set the tone for the conversation. The first way to be unforgettable is to give someone your full attention. Giving someone your full attention means putting your phone away—snap chat and Instagram can wait! It also means having strong eye contact, looking people in the eye when they speak as opposed to all around the room, because that lets people know you are disinterested. Another key to making a good first impression is to remember people’s names. If that isn’t a skill you already possess, you should make it a top priority. It should be easy when you meet someone you like, but we can get so caught up in our own heads that names don’t always stick. For example, I think it is especially important if you are meeting your crush’s friends to remember their names. If you want any relationship to last, putting effort into that will benefit you and will make you more likeable because people love the sound of their own name. And the best way to increase someone’s like for you is to have their friends like you too. Remembering their names goes a long way here. If you want to learn some more covert ways to build attraction with a woman, head over to katespring.com/free and sign up for a copy of my attraction handbook. That’s katespring.com/free and you’ll learn all different ways to build strong lasting attraction with any woman that you want. Ok, another way to make people feel good about themselves is to divert the conversation their way. Focus on others, not yourself, and you will find that you have made other people comfortable being around you; therefore, they will most likely want to continue being around you. Smiling also helps in this area, but not a Cheshire cat smile, because, well, that would turn any woman off. But having a confident, natural smile will make you seem like the most approachable guy in whichever situation you find yourself. Another way to set yourself apart from the crowd is to compliment your crush on something that elicits conversation. Complimenting on something that they are genetically predisposed to like eye color, height, natural skin glow, I would refrain from commenting on. Women make a lot of decisions when it comes to our appearance, clothes, shoes, jewelry, etcetera. If you compliment them on something that seems chosen, you are more likely to invite a conversation about how she came to own that piece of jewelry, or that hand bag. It is important to be genuine here. We can’t have any of that mean girl talk when you compliment something that you actually hate, don’t tell her that her purse is “fetch.” Compliment something you genuinely like about her and that doesn’t always have to be something physical, but if you are just meeting a girl, chances are you are going off what you see, unless she has some uncanny ability to let you get to know her in a matter of seconds. Chances are you will go off of looks, but something that looks like she chose it is a really good place to start and strike up conversation. More: http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- What To Do If She Says She Has A Boyfriend (Don't Panic!) Hey Guys! I’m Kate Spring, your virtual dating and relationship tutor. Have you ever fallen for someone who is already in a relationship? If you have, don’t worry, you’re not alone. I personally have, and I know many people who have as well. This is a super tricky position to find yourself in. It’s like a more complicated version of the friend zone, but with a third party participant. Anyways, I’m here to help you with what to do if she says she has a boyfriend. Just before we get started, if you have any questions at all, please leave them in the comments below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can! Alright, I’m sure you already feel how uncomfortable this situation is. And there are really two camps here: one is that you’ve just met her, and, two, she is already your friend who has a boyfriend. For the latter, I would say that it is best to move on. But, now you’re thinking, what if you have a friendship with her? That is a different story, and one I can help you with. If you are just friends with a girl that you like, I want to say try and then move on, keeping her as a friend. However, if your feelings are strong enough, you want to be proactive about it and not have any regrets. I understand the need to at least try to let her know you have feelings for her before you can fathom moving on. Chances are, if you’re friends with her and you like her, you will try to be the person that she can call on whenever she needs someone. If this is you, you’re her security blanket. This allows her to date other men but still keep you there for all of the good advice, and positive male attention. This is, essentially, the friend zone, which is not a terrible place to be in. This just means that you are valuable to her, but she doesn’t see herself dating you, yet. Being in the friendzone doesn’t completely suck, I mean it sucks, but thankfully you can try and do something about it. Being in the friend zone means that she trusts you and probably doesn’t want to complicate or lose you as a friend by dating you. No matter how strong your feelings are, you aren’t going to change her mind over night. Regardless, if you like her current boyfriend or not, it’s not your job to tell her why she shouldn’t date him. The key here is patience. Watch and be there for her. Love takes on many forms, and one of the most valuable is friendship. So don’t get discouraged just yet. Do not, whatever you do, or however drunk you get, talk poorly about her current boyfriend. When girls hear this, it makes them not want to confide in you anymore and you will put her in protection mode and make her defend her boyfriend to you. Ultimately, girls need to make their own decisions in relationships they don’t want to be told who is good enough for them. They need to learn it themselves. No matter how loud you yell it, she may never hear it, or she only will when she is finally ready to hear it and move on. If you want to learn more about how to attract women, head over to katespring.com/free and pick up a copy of my attraction building handbook where you’ll learn how to win women over through text messaging and body language. That’s katespring.com/free. And to make your life easier, I’ll post the link in the description below. Ok, there are, however, some ways that you could change her mind or help her along the decision-making process. That is, if you are always available to her, you need to stop. At this point, she sees you as a friend, not someone who is boyfriend material. If you want to subtly let her know that you’re not her surrogate boyfriend, you need to create some distance from her. You’re the boyfriend without the benefits; you basically pick up the pieces that her boyfriend fails to. But this is a good position to be in because it means a couple things: one, it means that she values you and your opinion, but, at the same time, you are not the person she is attracted to if you are so available to her. If you start to live your life without her, not always being there to comfort her when she’s sad, to hang out whenever she wants, or to immediately answer her phone calls, she will probably start to realize that she needs to make a decision. And if you start dating other women, this will ultimately frustrate her in that another woman has essentially “stolen” her friend. Once you start to live your life without her, maybe she will have to reconsider who she could live without, either you or her boyfriend. Another bonus of this is if your emotions happen to be lust, the chances are, in the right environment, they can be pretty fleeting. Taking yourself out from under her wing and living for yourself might actually allow you to go out and meet someone else. More: http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- How To Playfully Tease A Woman What’s up YouTube! I hope you’re all doing well! I have a video to help you up your attraction factor and really get women hot and bothered! For those of you who don’t know me, I’m Kate Spring, a dating and relationship coach from the west coast of Canada. And for those of you who are familiar with me and my channel, welcome back. Before we get into the contents of this video, be sure to subscribe to my channel where you’ll be updated every time I release a new video. Then you can leave all of your questions in the comments section below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. You can also drop me a line about other videos you would like me to cover in the future. Actually, take the poll and let me know what you would like to see next? Would you like to see a video on “how to keep a woman interested in you?” or “5 secret physiological ways to tell a woman likes you.?” Take the poll! For the majority of my life, when I thought about teasing, I thought about playground bullying. “Ohhhhh snap, look at kevin! He can’t even tie up his own shoelaces so he’s still wearing Velcro!” Or something silly like that. Or I would think about the times that boys would tease me in elementary school, which just meant that they liked me. But some of that teasing could be really hurtful. That’s not the type of teasing that I want to touch on here. Teasing, when used correctly, can actually yield some positive responses in terms of dating and attraction. As you can obviously tell from the title of this video, we will be looking at how you can playfully tease a woman to spark her interest. Teasing is defined as, “to make fun of or attempt to provoke a person in a playful way.” That doesn’t sound so terrifying. I should also mention that bullying and teasing are two vastly different things and we won’t touch on bullying at all. Ok, back to teasing. Teasing is one of the oldest forms of flirting that there is. Like I said, women are taught from a very young age that when boys tease them, it means that they really just like you. We’ve naturalized this behavior as a method of courtship. Teasing sparks a back and forth interaction between two people. It shows that you’re paying attention to more than just a woman’s looks because here you won’t be teasing a woman on her looks, but you will be noticing some of her quirks and mannerisms. Teasing is something that will help you set yourself apart from the pack. It is something that nice guys have a problem employing in attracting women. Kind of like my friend Dylan. When I first started out in this field, I was helping my guy friend Dylan out at a bar who had just met a girl. I was sitting right behind them and could hear everything that they were saying. He wanted me to assess what he was doing wrong. Their conversation started with Dylan asking what the girl was doing there. She responded with a sarcastic remark saying, “I’m actually in the witness protection program just filming the pilot for my new reality show… see the cameras?” (she pointed to the bouncer) Dylan said, “Oh, no way! When is it supposed to air?” Face-palm. He took this woman’s sarcasm literally, which did something unfavorable for him, which placed him in the naïve, gullible, nice guy category. He didn’t flick the attraction switch at all, but nailed the pity switch. The thing about women is that a little teasing can go a long way. It is a foolproof way to instigate some flirty banter. In order for it to be playful and fun, you have to also tease yourself or make fun of yourself. This way you ensure that you a) don’t hurt her feelings and b) you give her the ok to dish it back to you. Teasing also creates tension. And it sets you apart from the pack of nice guys out there who are too afraid to push a woman’s boundaries. This is also a good way for you to exude your masculine confidence, which allows a woman to tap into her feminine side and feel girly when she’s around you. More at: http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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----------------------Go to: http://www.KateSpring.com/FREE ------------------------ --------------------Go Watch My Free Full Video Presentation!----------------------- Hey there! Welcome back to my channel to my subscribers! And welcome to first time viewers. My name is Kate Spring and I’m a dating and relationship coach from the West Coast of Canada. And I was very inspired by last night’s events in my life to create this video for you. 1. get over yourself: A lot of the time, we’re always trying to paint ourselves in this perfect light. Whether that is professionally, or personally, we’re always trying to be our best and perform to the best of our abilities and look our best. Think about your resume or CV. That’s not a place where you list your quirky flaws, no, that’s where you show off all of your achievements and assets that you will bring to a potential employer. You’re always trying to achieve some level of perfection. A lot of the time when we’re focused on this, we neglect to branch out of our comfort zone and really try new things unless we know that we will succeed at it or be perfect, and if you’re anything like me, this is something that I too struggle with—getting out of my comfort zone even if it means failing. This is a mindset or a way of being that really holds you back. In reality, people feel much closer and connected to those that seem fallible. People who can fail and make mistakes, but do so graciously. Someone who is resilient is remembered as someone that people want to be around and someone who encourages others to try new things even when they fail. And when you encourage people to get out of their comfort zone you make them feel empowered and that is a memorable quality to have. Which brings us to our next point and that is to make people feel special: 2. Make People Feel Special: How you do this is by being curious about their lives, which makes people feel valuable and unique. I find maintaining authentic/ genuine conversation with people is of great difficulty to a lot of people. One of the best ways to build rapport and ensure that the conversation never runs dry is to use the FORD system. This allows you to skim over small talk and get to know people on a deeper level. The FORD system is just an acronym for topic areas to cover when you’re talking to new people. It stands for: family, occupation, recreation, and dreams. These are great topics that are fool proof ones to find out what matters to people. And once you do so, talk about the things and people that matter to them and you will find that you get to know that person with whom you’re speaking on a much deeper level and at a much quicker pace. If you want to learn more ways to be unforgettable, but in a body language context, head over to katespring.com/free and get a copy of my free attraction building handbook. You can get access to your own copy at katespring.com/free. 3. Laugh: Alright, for my third tip on how to be unforgettable, remember to laugh. This is one of the easiest things that you can do to improve your mood and the mood of an interaction, because like moods, laughing too is contagious. 4. Be Proactive: And for our fourth and final tip on how to make yourself an unforgettable man is to be proactive. This is the type of person who is self-motivated, someone who lives the saying, “actions speak louder than words.” One of the defining characteristics of an unforgettable alpha male is his leadership qualities, but not so much in his ability to lead others, but his ability to lead himself.
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- The Truth About Why Women Love Bad Boys (Shocking!) Hey YouTube! if you don’t know me, my name is Kate Spring, and I’m a dating a relationship coach from Canada, so now you know! I’m here to discuss a very serious topic…. See, there’s a ‘disease’ that has plagued the dating world for years! And that disease is the female love for the bad boy. I want to let you in on a huge secret. The secret that I am about to reveal is why girls love bad boys. To get started, bad boys are a challenge for us. As girls, I think, whether we want to admit it or not, we like to nurture people and see them grow. That is a major reason why women lean towards the bad boy persona. Before we get too far, I just want to remind you that if you have any questions throughout this video to leave them in the comments below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can! And at the end of this video if you enjoyed it, be sure to click that like button and most importantly, subscribe and get notified of my latest videos! Ok, some people think women are attracted to the bad boy because we have daddy issues. And while that is a thing, without getting too heavy, a lot of women, if they have poor relationships with their fathers, always seek that kind of negligent love in their boyfriends. And that is one reason why women go for the bad boy. Sometimes, however, it has absolutely nothing to do with their father. Sometimes, women go after the unattainable bad boy because they want to be the reason that he changes or, like i mentioned earlier, they are nurturers and they want to in a sense save a bad boy from himself. But people don’t change unless THEY want to or the incentive is big enough. The bad boy is also the face of a person who would rather not commit to a relationship. So there are many types and girls also respond to them differently. The bad boys usually hold the power because they usually care the least. And it’s in the sense that they are so detached from their feelings that they can take a girl or leave her. And for a girl, this means he holds the power in the relationship, which causes her to chase him. That is a strong imbalance of power. The woman who is secure in herself won’t really deal with the bad boy. Some relationships, especially those based on power, have turned into a nasty game of who can care the least. It is an act of self-preservation, one that does not bode well for a lasting or loving relationship. The bad boy trend is also a cultural phenomenon that the movies and popular culture have enforced and, in the process, taught us girls to have unrealistic expectations about relationships. It also encourages the dangerous thought that you should get into a relationship to change the person. Change can happen, but the best piece of advice I have ever gotten was to never get into a relationship with someone for its potential. If you do, you will find yourself let down because what you see is usually what you get. If a woman is going after the bad boy, she is attracted to his confidence and is also looking for him to boost her self-confidence. Not always the best thing to do. Sometimes we can lack self-esteem; we’re extremely human that way. But the number one reason why we are attracted to the bad boy is that he gives off a feeling of confidence and power. Not like Harry Potter power, but power in the sense that he is confident enough in himself to not care what other’s think. Women are psychologically drawn to men who appear to be powerful males that know what they want. The alpha males, we just know that with that comes confidence and it usually implies that he is driven. For more information on how to be as confident as the bad boy, head over to katesprind.com/free and get your hands on a copy of my attraction handbook where I lay down some attraction building methods such as texting and body language that really gets women going. Remember that’s katespring.com/free. And to make your life even easier, I’ll post the link in the description below. Alright, another thing to understand about the allure about the bad boy is that women are by nature nurturers. That is why when we meet a man who seems damaged, misunderstood or brooding, we want to help him. Even if it is just his way to get into our pants. This can be a psychological mind bender. We want to feel needed, and the bad boy is just the easiest form of that. He is the hurt puppy we want to cuddle. We feel a need to fix the bad boy, or we want them to change for us. This is a highly romanticized vision of love that we have all strived for at some point in our lives. Something that girls don’t either know about themselves or want to own up to is the fact that some of us are afraid of intimacy. More: http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- How To Get A Girlfriend What’s going on YouTube?! Today I am going to give you a long awaited video on how to get a girlfriend. You can rejoice! It’s time, Grasshopper, time to put everything you’ve learned from my previous videos to the test and get that girl you’ve been pining after to be your girlfriend, if you haven’t already done so. So, before we get started, don’t forget that you can reach me by leaving questions in the comments section below, and I’ll get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. Also, for my next video, would you like to see one on how to get women to chase you, or how to tell when a woman wants to be approached? Take the poll! Step #1: Be Open. My first step to getting a girlfriend is to have an open mind! Get rid of any nit-picky check list about the type of girl you want to date. Or reasons why things will never work out. Have standards for yourself, of course, but don’t limit yourself to one type of woman. Sometimes relationships can come out of the most random interactions, if you’re open to it. When I was single, I had a very specific idea of the type of guy I wanted to date, but the best laid plans often go awry, so I ended up with someone I didn’t picture for myself. But it actually turned out for the best! In being open to who you meet that also means you don’t have to date your personality twin. There are tons of research to defend both points that opposites attract and that we need to find someone with similar interests. Either one works depending on what you’re open to. Yes, having the same interests is great! But also being into different things expands your horizons, takes you out of your comfort zone, and maybe introduces you to something that you really enjoy! Remember that saying that goes, “people won’t remember what you said, but they will remember how you made them feel.” And you never know who will make you will feel suddenly alive, important and special. Step #2: One of the factors that contributes to getting a girlfriend is to take her on real dates. Don’t just Netflix and chill, that’s a booty call and not a date. Put some effort and creativity into your dates. Take her out for an activity and not just going out to get drunk with your buddies. You could take her out for a walk in the park, or to brunch, or for a picnic. Picnics are a lost art of dating! I’d say the movies are a bad place to get to know someone. Sitting in a dark room in silence isn’t really an invitation for conversation or to get to know someone. But doing activities takes some of the attention off of both of you and the stress of keeping up conversation. I think going beer tasting or wine tasting is a hell of a good idea to get you out to try new things and also you usually have some sort of guide taking you around. If you aren’t near places like that, take her kayaking or to a petting zoo. Do something that you are both interested in or have never tried before. Trying new things, even if it totally bombs, at least you could get a funny story about it. This is a good way to connect with someone; laugh and create memories, even if the experience wasn’t perfect. But hopefully you can laugh at it. Make the date exciting and don’t be afraid to switch up what you do. Throw in a romantic dinner here and there. But be proactive about taking her on dates and not just hook-up dates late at night. Step #4: The next step is to be an active listener. Actually listen to your crush and to people in which you’re interested. It’s a step up for you if you can remember the important things she tells you. Remember names; don’t be one of those d-bags that never remembers her best friend’s name or her sister’s or brother’s, unless she’s got like 12 siblings, then I think you’re allowed to forget a couple. Women just want to feel like what they say matters and interests you. The point of being in a relationship is to have a friend and to share life’s adventures. And when you listen, really listen, then sharing happens and, in the process, a bond is formed. Step #5: The next step in wooing a girlfriend into monogamy is to instigate some body contact. Touching is an essential part in building attraction and simulating tension. And on the plus side, it’s exciting. Make a point that every time that you greet your girl you hug her and when you say goodbye. Set this as the precedent from the get go. Humans all have a desire to connect through physical contact. Another way to touch is to put your arms around her when you’re walking, or just sitting. Don’t be afraid to get close. Touch her arm when she laughs. Pavlov’s theory of classical conditioning suggests that humans can be conditioned to respond in certain ways to different cues. More at: http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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http://www.katespring.com/exback - How To Get Your Ex Back (Follow These 8 Steps!) What’s up YouTube? I’m Kate Spring, a dating and relationship coach from Canada and I’ve got a pretty serious topic to discuss today, one that I want to jump right into and that is how to get your ex-girlfriend back. A lot of people have contacted me seeking more guidance with this. I have a problem, they say, and I’m here to help! Just before we get started, if you have any questions, please leave them in the comments below, and I’ll get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. The first thing that is important to understand and acknowledge is why your ex left you. There are so many reasons, and the first thing you need to do is seriously look at the relationship and take ownership for your actions or lack thereof. Here’s a quick list of common reasons why couples breakup: -poor communication skills -being complacent and routine. -taking your partner for granted. -cheating—yikes -inability to grow and evolve together -want different things -stopped trying. But the main reason why most couples split up is due to a loss of emotional attraction. As you can see, there are many reasons why relationships end, and your ex might be lying about the reasons as to why she broke up with you. But I would say that the main reason why most couples split is due to a loss of emotional attraction. A loss of emotional attraction is not sexual. But sexual and emotional attraction are what distinguishes a romantic relationship from a friendship.
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- Top 3 Tinder Mistakes Hey there and welcome back to my channel! For those of you who don’t know me my name’s Kate Spring and I’m a dating and relationship coach from the West Coast of Canada. And in today’s video I want to nip something in the butt and that is mistakes men are making with tinder. These are the three most common mistakes that I see men making with women. This is what is stopping a woman from swiping right for you. So let’s lay down what these top 3 mistakes are and some solutions. Before we get started, as always, if you have any questions please leave them in the comments section below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. Also, don’t forget to hit that subscribe button so that I can continue to create free content for you! 1. Not Enough Solo Shots: For our first Tinder faux paus, I want to go with one that women talk to me about constantly and that is when a man doesn’t have enough solo shots. Tinder allows you to show up to 6 photos. If a girl has to spend too much time trying to figure out who you are in the photos she will quickly lose interest. So make a woman’s decision to swipe right an easy one by having enough photos where you’re the sole focus. Your goal in your pictures is to present yourself in the most appealing way all while giving a girl a little glimpse into your life. A good combination of photos is photos where you are clearly the focus, but you could have a close up, a medium shot (torso up) and a full body shot. Photos of you out and about, in nature, etc. Don’t use your photos to just showcase your dog. Instead, have a picture of you AND your dog. Avoid pictures that you’ve taken in a bathroom mirror. Those are a no-no. Also avoid pictures that you’ve taken on your webcam. TRY to get some candid shots of you smiling and or laughing. You’re showing yourself off in these pictures so don’t be afraid to ask a friend to snap a couple of pictures of you. Always remember that this is your profile and your chance to showcase yourself. Don’t have too many pictures with you and the same group of buddies, again, confusing for a girl to decipher who you are. A good rule of thumb is that your first picture should always, always, always be a picture of just you and your face should be visible in it! And please, do not show off in your photos by holding expensive things. This just leaves a bad taste in a girl’s mouth. 2. Write A Bio: The second thing that turns women off from your profile is if you don’t have a bio. The bio and pictures are complementary. I’d say the photos are the primary focus and the second most important aspect of your profile is your bio, which should not include your penis size. Regardless if you’re looking for a one night stand or a more serious relationship, a girl is more inclined to swipe right for you if you have something written in your bio that lets her get to know you and your sense of humor. One word is too short, a three-paragraph mini essay is too much. Drop a joke or a quote. And if you’re not necessarily the funny type, jot down where you’re from what you like to do for fun in your free time, or what you do for work, etc. For example, “Tristan. Toronto base 6’3 accountant by day, sushi lover by night.”Just make it sound interesting and use proper grammar and spelling. Attention to detail is key and will really go that extra mile in capturing a woman’s attention. 3. The Greeting: Our third Tinder mishap is poor greetings. Recently I’ve had a lot of women ask me why men greet them on Tinder with a, “sup dude?” If this is your opening line then I’d suggest you stop. This line doesn’t work on women. It sets the wrong tone from the get go. A good opening line would be a witty comment and or observation about one of her pictures or her bio. That way you instigate some flirty banter. If women are on Tinder they are there to try to meet someone. So don’t push her away by saying “Hey there, how are you?” Use language to your advantage. Be in charge of the conversation by steering it into a cheeky and flirty conversation with a girl and this all starts with your opening line.For example, you’ve matched with a girl named Elise. The first thing to do is to make sure that somewhere in your first message that you mention her name. The next step is to tailor your message to her. Use the info from her bio and pictures to come up with an opener. “Elise, I see you enjoy hiking, spending time with your girlfriends and hanging out with your cat. Is this the bio equivalent to the dog face filter on snapchat?” And be sure to leave a little winky face after so you’re not to offend her. More at http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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http://www.KateSpring.com -- 4 Ways To Build Sexual Tension With a Woman Hey guys, Kate Spring here, and I’m here to address something that is a real letdown for women in their relationships. And that is a lack of sexual tension. Sometimes, healthy tension can be one of those things missing in relationships and is like an on and off switch, but most of the time, it requires work. Building sexual tension is like the growing hunger that makes a three-course meal so enjoyable, and the build-up to the main meal is the appetizer, and I’m going to share with you 4 ways to savour the entire meal. Just a reminder, make sure if you have any questions that you leave them in the comments below and I’ll be sure to get back to you! Also, If you have any suggestions for other men about ways to build sexual tension with a woman, please leave them in the comments below as well. Ok, women need a gradual build up; they need to be teased. The art of teasing is giving a little and then taking it away, always leaving them wanting more. It is has been scientifically proven that women and men treat sex differently and the way we get turned on varies in time! So remember, women need a little extra in the tension department. We too want to want it. And I guarantee, once you try these tactics, you won’t go back. One of the most important ways to build tension with a woman is by having a connection with her mind. If it’s not an undeniable sexual chemistry at first, then no fear, because we can help to create it with these few steps. By connecting with a woman on an intellectual as well as emotional level, we will make her feel good about you, which is our goal! This may seem pretty basic to you, but women are in their heads a lot of the time, and by penetrating her thoughts, and being thoughtful, you can really begin to have an effect. Aside from the physical contact we have with people, our most important connection with others is an emotional and an intellectual one. We can achieve this through sharing some witty jokes or talking about topics that you’re passionate about. It shows you have depth and a mind to go along with your body. Dirty jokes do work, too, in some capacity! Don’t get me wrong, I love a good crude joke! But being too jokey can take away from the emotional connection we are trying to create with someone. We connect with the mind, so start there. Humor and compassion fall under this category and are sure-fire ways to start building that connection that leads to attraction and then tension. You basically want to show your best side, and this is one of the first steps to building that tension, but first you have to build that connection. Onto our second way to create sexual tension. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. And texting can enhance that tension with a few flirty texts, and leaving off with an "I can't wait to see you ;)" (cheeky emoji). Having a strong text game is key to creating sexual tension with your woman of interest. Texting allows you to blush and squawk and squeal like no one is watching, and it allows you to have whatever reaction you naturally feel. The text is a very specific one to learn—if you do not already practice savvy texting. Complimenting someone over text message is a good place to begin, and when you sign off, leave her a little, “I’m excited to see you!” These few things go a long way in the relationship build up. After all, it’s all about textual satisfaction! To learn more about building attraction and sexual tension with your girl, head over to katespring.com/free and get ahold of my eBook “the attraction handbook: how to get any girl you want. Thats katespring.com/free and I’ll be sure to leave the link in the comments below. The third way to create tension is through flirting. Flirting requires some degree of comfort with your sexuality. Because if you are not, then your flirting may come off as strange and awkward. Guilt surrounding sex is one of the most detrimental things that has happened to our culture. Men and women are sexual beings and flirting is fun, so let go of whatever guilt you have pent up from your Sunday School days and explore. Tension is the feeling of being pulled towards someone, but also experiencing resistance. It occurs when you and your girl interact and have a sexual desire to be with each other, but it is postponed or delayed or has yet to happen.
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- How To Approach A Group of Women There is nothing more intimidating than a group of women who are beautiful, laughing and only engaged with each other. If you’re out and about and you see a group of women who are friends, their friendship is like a force field that says don’t eff with us. So I can only imagine how difficult it must be to muster the courage to approach a group of women when one of those women in particular has caught your eye. Hey there, I’m Kate Spring, a dating and relationship coach from Victoria, BC. And I want to teach you a couple moves to approach a group of women so you don’t get completely shut down and your ego doesn’t get blended into a million tiny pieces from offending one of them. Before we get started, if you have any questions you can leave them in the comments section below and I’ll get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. Approaching a group of women is an art form. And your goal is to win over the entire group. If you approach one of the women and ignore the rest, a couple things can happen. One, you can make other women jealous that only their one friend got the attention. Secondly, that puts the other women in defense mode. Because you are essentially an intruder in the group, if you approach one, you look predatory and the friends of the girl you like will most likely try to get rid of you and protect her. So your first task is to approach the group and win them over. How you do this is by cracking a joke or just a witty comment. For example, you could approach the group and say, “you guys, this is so us, you talking about me and me standing here looking pretty.” Or you can say whatever you want that will break the ice with a group of women. You want to open with something that invites a laugh and some banter. From there, once you have the group chatting and laughing and you’re included in the conversation, you can make a little joke about the girl you are eventually going to isolate. By saying something about the one you like, perhaps she’s disinterested at first, or playing it cool, say something like, “omg, how do you put up with this one? She is so rambunctious!” Your delivery here is essential. You do not want to have a serious tone. You want to have a smile and maybe cap it off with a laugh. Winning over the friend group is important because if the friends like you, then they will encourage their friend to get to know you on a one on one level. Which is ultimately what you want. Since you are trying to win over a group of women while simultaneously hitting on one of the women in particular, head over to katespring.com/free and get your hands on my free eBook the attraction handbook where I outline the steps to build attraction with any woman you want. This will help your game significantly. Remember, that’s katespring.com/free. And to make your life even easier, I’ll leave the link in the details below. Ok, back to it, avoid making sexist, misogynist jokes and or jokes that put other people down. You want to add value to the conversation, not bring it down and other people with you. Now that you’ve won the group over with your charm and wit, it’s time to isolate the girl that you want. While everyone is chatting amongst themselves you can slowly focus your attention on the one that you like. You can do so by paying her a compliment. Saying something like “I like your dress.” That might be pretty basic, or you can ask her a question like, “would you rather stay here and talk to your friends some more, or go and get a drink with me?” Or a cup of coffee or whatever situation in, try to tease her away from the crowd. And, since you’ve already won over her friends, they will most likely encourage her to go with you. And that, my friends, is how you approach a group of women and chat up the one that catches your eye. Alright, that’s all I have for you today, but don’t forget to subscribe to my channel where you can stay up to date with my latest videos. But most importantly, don’t forget to head over to katespring.com/free and grab a free copy of my attraction handbook! Thanks for watching and I will see you next time. More at: http://www.KateSpring.com
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----------------------Go to: http://www.KateSpring.com/FREE ------------------------ --------------------Go Watch My Free Full Video Presentation!----------------------- Hey there, YouTubers! I hope you’re all doing well. Welcome to my channel. My name is Kate Spring and I’m a dating and relationship coach from the West Coast of Canada. And today I want to jump right into the information of this video because I want to help you understand women even better. And, as you can already tell by the title of this video, we are going to discuss some of the most obvious nonverbal cues that a woman will send out when she’s not interested in you. 1. Her body is turned away from you/ closed off: The best way to tell that a woman isn’t feeling your encounter is to pay attention to how she is carrying herself. Is she closed off? Are her arms crossed? Is she kind of hunched over making herself small? These are all indications that a woman is feeling uncomfortable and perhaps not really interested in you. When we like people, or when we’re even open to talking to people, our bodies reflect this mindset by physically opening up. And conversely, if our bodies are closed off that means that we’re not feeling the conversation and or interaction. 2. Eye contact is limited: The second thing to take note of is if a woman is maintaining eye contact. This is one of the easiest ways to tell if a woman is interested in you and the encounter because when we like someone, we want to look at them. And conversely, if we’re trying to swerve on out of the conversation, then eye contact will be limited and she will be looking everywhere but your face. That is a universal sign that she’s not interested and she doesn’t want to engage with you. 3. Her feet are pointed away from you: When our feet are pointed away from someone with whom we’re speaking, that means we’re mentally preparing to leave the conversation. Actually, if a woman’s feet are pointed away from you, that means that she has already, mentally, begun to leave the conversation and that her body will follow suit shortly. She’s setting herself up to get out of your interaction. She’s not interested. 4. When she’s leaning away from you: The final, most obvious way to tell that a woman isn’t interested in you is her proximity to you and if she is leaning away from you. When we like someone, we want to be near them. And we will make any excuse that we can to get next to them. If you notice that the girl with whom you’re speaking starts to pull away, and lean out from your conversation then she is disengaging from the interaction. She’s, non-verbally, saying that she needs space. It’s quite simple, when women want to continue a conversation or continue to get to know someone, their bodies make it pretty obvious because they want to be next to that person. That’s all I have for you today, if you like what you’ve learned, please like this video and be sure to subscribe to my channel so that you can stay up to date with my latest videos. And thank you for your constant support and I’ll see you in my next video.
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http://www.katespring.com -- Where To Meet Attractive Women Are you tired of going out with your same group of friends and meeting the same type of women? The type that are only interested in your one friend who already has a girlfriend? If this is you, don’t worry because I’m here to help. Hi I'm Kate Spring, dating and relationship coach from Victoria, BC, and I want to dispel some of the myths around where to meet “hot women,” ones to turn into your girlfriend. I’m here to share with you some new places to try and meet women. I remember a time in my recent past when my sister and I were both single, and we were tired of meeting the same type of guys. Ones with fleeting emotions. Guys that settled momentarily on you and a second later moved on to the next. Looking back on those times and those experiences, I asked myself where I spent most of my time trying to meet my potential boyfriend, and my answer was the bar. That might have been my first mistake. But just before we get started, if you have any questions please leave them in the comments below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can! So, in my life, I have yet to meet someone at a bar and create a meaningful relationship. As someone looking for a relationship, more often than not, bars are a good way to take your mind off of someone. But bars are a poor foundation to start something meaningful. If you are always meeting people when you have been drinking, you don't really have a clear mind that will capture everything that is there. You can miss a lot of things and people. If you’re just looking to hook up, then, yes, bars are a great place to do that. And rather than seeking advice on meeting women of quality, perhaps you should head on over to a video lesson in safe sex. But this video might give you the foundation to pursue a relationship with the potential of intimacy. But onto our solutions! If you are always looking to meet women in the same place, maybe try somewhere else. Don’t limit yourself to where you might meet someone that catches your eye. Public places are a great start. With the pervasiveness of social media, dating apps and dating websites at our disposal, I think we have many ways to meet people. It just depends on how you plan to use these. We’re so information rich and…. Well, also sometimes overwhelmed. The comedian Aziz Ansari's book Modern Romance talks about how the baby boomer generation would generally marry the people within their neighborhood because that was their social circle. Nowadays proximity isn’t the only reason to date someone, but it might be a nice place to start. Meeting new people through your current friends and friends of friends is one place to explore. This is an exciting way to meet people, but it has both pros and cons. A pro being that things might go well between you are your new girlfriend, someone whom you met through one of your friends. A situation like this means that you have an immediate friend group to hang out with, share social events, and enjoy dinner parties together, yada yada. The con of this might be the reverse, where you don’t get along. That can create a little tension in existing friendships. But, hey, people are resilient and we move on… hopefully. MORE: http://www.katespring.com/free
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- How to Improve Your Sense of Humour What’s that one thing that is on and near the top of everyone’s dating criteria? Aside from looks, what do people want in a partner? If you thought funny, then you get where I’m going with this. We’ve all met that person that is offended by everything. From your footwear to the scent in a room, there is just no pleasing them. Those types of people are lacking a sixth sense, a sense of humor. Conversations with such people are the equivalent to bathing in a tub of broken glass. Some people take life way, way, way too seriously, and it is saddening. That is not how you want people to think about you. As the Greeks say, life is far too important to be taken seriously. Luckily, there is a way to develop a sense of humor! Just in case you are lacking in that department, I thought I would help you climb the dating hierarchy by giving you some tips that you can use to improve your sense of humor and personality, how to be that funny guy that women all want to be around. Hey guys, I’m Kate Spring, I’m a dating and relationship coach from the west coast of Canada. Before we jump into this, as always, if you have any questions, please leave them in the comments section below and I’ll be sure to get back to you personally as soon as I can. Quick question,( point left ) For my next video, do you want to see a video on how to get a girlfriend or one on how to make women chase you? Take my poll in the corner. Alright, I took a poll amongst my male clients and asked them what they wanted to learn most, and the general consensus was how to be more desirable. And I thought, yes, ok, but the further I got into it, I began to think that the thing people have the most control over is what they say and how they say it. This is when it hit me that this is your sense of humor and personality. And I don’t want to hear any of that, “But I’m not funny” kind of talk. Everyone is funny when in the right environment. And what I mean by that is that you are, essentially, the company you keep. If you hang out with people who are negative and who have a dark rain cloud of a personality and can bring down even the Dalai Lama’s mood, then you, my friend, have soul sucking company, and it’s time to distance yourself. This brings me to my first piece of advice: spend time with funny and happy people. When you spend time with people, their qualities and/or moods tend to rub off on you. And thus, you are the company that you keep. So keep good, funny company. Having a good sense of humor is like having unlimited resources, no matter the situation. It elevates you to the top tier of the dating hierarchy. Since you don’t have total control over your genetic makeup, and how your look, take control of how you look at life, that is, your attitude, your personality. Having a sense of humor means that you appreciate jokes and can perceive them. It means that you’re amused by a lot of things as opposed to being serious all the time. Remember that for those who laugh, life is a comedy. For those who cry, it’s a tragedy. Both are attitudes, ways of looking at world and at the self. My second piece of advice to improve your sense of humor, then, is to develop an ability to laugh at yourself. Have you ever met a guy who does something so stupid, and instead of just laughing it off, he gets so hurt that he looks like he’s going to cry? It’s actually so funny, but not in the haha that guy is so funny and kinda cute way, but more in the haha, oh no I feel bad for you way. Having the ability to laugh at yourself and make mistakes is refreshing, and it lightens any mood. Women respond really well to this because it puts them at ease. Say you’re on a date with a woman, and you knock over your glass of red wine and it gets all over your crotch. Instead of wanting to curl up in a ball and crawl in a hole and completely disappear, laugh! Grab a cloth and some soda water laugh it off. It’s all about the bounce back here. Whatever kind of ooopsy woopsy you do in front of a crush, laugh at yourself. It’s awkward as heck when you watch someone who is visibly nervous on a date, but if you can learn to not take yourself so seriously, than any woman will feel at ease with you and enjoy your resilient personality. This type of guy is one of the most likeable by all. It shows confidence, resilience and a good sense of humor. Think of it this way, you know when you hear a cheesy add of an old couple being interviewed about the secret to a long-lasting marriage and how the answer is always laughter. Everyone wants to be with someone that makes them laugh. It is a historical fact that our personalities will outlive our young physiques. More at: http://www,KateSpring.com/Free
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http://www.katespring.com -- Why Women Lose Interest Hey Guys! I'm Kate Spring, Dating and relationship coach. I've been asked this question a lot lately about why women lose interest in men. I've thought long and hard over this and talked to my girlfriends and also tried to remember why I, personally, have lost interest in men in the past. And I think I've come up with a few reasons as to why women start to lose interest in the initial stages of a budding romance. Ok, so, I think one reason why a woman loses interest in a man is if her rose-colored glasses fall off. And she realizes that she doesn’t appreciate some of his manners. One of those reasons can be rudeness. Rude to customer service people, to her, to anyone, really. If this is the case, and your rudeness is an unsuccessful attempt to be funny, I might suggest you work on a type of humor that doesn't bring people down in order to get a laugh. I know there is that old saying that nice guys finish last, but don't be mistaken as to how far being kind to your love interest will go. Having an ability to make light of situations and not get attached to your expectations will work wonders for you, I promise.
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- How To Chat Up Women On Facebook (And Get A Date!) As opposed to a time when you could really only meet people face to face, through people you know, there are so many new, innovative ways to meet people. But, thanks to technology, the possibilities to meet people and find a date are pretty broad. Hey, I’m Kate Spring, dating and relationship coach from the west coast of Canada, and I’m here to help you chat up a woman on Facebook and possibly get a date. With the variety of ways to go about getting a date, it can be either a blessing or a curse. If you chose to look at it as something exciting, then that’s what it is. It can be super hard to think of THE PERFECT thing to say to make you irresistible, but at least you don’t have to have the nerves of being face to face. Alright, before we get started, like always, if you have any questions, please leave them in the comments below, and I’ll get back to you as soon as I can! What is the first thing people look at when someone adds them on Facebook? If you thought their profile pictures, you’re right. Having an up to date profile is really going to help your dating game. And it all starts with your profile pictures. This is where you can pretty much show off your best side and features. Are you outdoorsy? Artistic? Sporty? Whatever you are, you can incorporate these into your profile pictures, which helps us get to know you better. It is also important to have some selfies, or pictures where you are the focus, and your face is visible. When you have multiple pictures of yourself and your friends, it it hard for girls to comb through your photos to try and figure out which one is you. This takes away the time we want to spend getting to know you through your profile. So have an up to date profile. Get rid of old photos of yourself and your ex. Have some selfies and update the “about you” section. This lets people know what type of music, movies, and books you’re into. Don’t forget to mention your place of work and other things that tell us about you. These are all the details that we like to know ahead of getting to know you, and then you can describe it more in depth, in person, or on Facebook chat. The best type of photo you could use is one that clearly shows your face, and maybe choose one out in a public setting—but definitely not one from your webcam of you sitting at your computer. Those are just awkward photos. Women want you to be not only social and active but also have a life that you can introduce them to. And not just mould into hers. Alright, now onto the actual interaction. If you add someone out of the blue, I would guess that, usually, they would accept. Generally, it helps if your profile isn’t locked up like “Fort Knox,” as we want to see some pictures. This helps people feel relieved that they aren’t being “cat fished.” But if you already know the person, then, great, add them. Or if you have just briefly met, adding people on Facebook is a good first step as opposed to getting her phone number right off the bat. That can come later on. Once you have been added back, it is time to make the first move, or send the first message. I caution you against using the, “You are so beautiful,” or the messages that come across as you worshipping her before you even really know her. As much as we want to hear that we are beautiful, we also want to work for it. By work for it, I mean we want to hear we are beautiful once you know us more than skin deep. We want you to understand our personality and find that attractive too. And if you really want to learn how to build attraction with a woman, head over to katespring.com/free and get a free copy of my attraction handbook, which is completely free by the way! That’s katespring.com/free. So a good first message would require you to have looked at her profile and find something that she seems interested in, and then introduce yourself. Try to avoid the mundane questions about how her day is. Or the broad questions like, “What are your hobbies and interests?” Questions like that are so open-ended that it can kind of be a conversation deterrent. It’s not an interesting question, so you can’t expect an interesting response. An example of a good opener would be acknowledging something that she is interested in. “I see you’re into _______,” and then insert something that you can decipher from her profile. Does she ski, horseback ride, read Daniel Steele novels religiously, drink Prosecco like it’s her day job? Either way, you can find something that she does, and start a dialogue with that. To follow, say something kind of cheeky. For more: http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- How To Become Irresistible To Women Hey YouTubers! Welcome back to my channel for those of you who have subscribed. And Welcome to my channel for those of you who are new! I’m Kate Spring, a dating and relationship coach that wants to help men understand the complexity of the female mind, more specifically, female attraction. And what you can do to become irresistible to women. That is, how can you become too attractive and tempting to be resisted. In this video, I’m going to share a number of ways that you can create a deep hunger in a woman to want to be with you, no, NEED to be with you. So let’s get started. Remember that if you have any questions, be sure to leave them in the comments section below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. If you guys also want me to make certain videos, subscribe to my channel and leave your suggestions in the comments section as well. By subscribing, you ensure that you’ll be updated every time I release a new video. Poll: I have a question for those of you watching, I get a lot of suggestions on videos to make. What would you like to see next? A video on how to build rapport with a woman, or how to make a woman like you in 10 seconds or less. I bet you remember Charles Darwin and his scientific theory of evolution. Or the phrase, “survival of the fittest” and “natural selection.” These Darwinian phrases work to describe how organisms that are better adapted to their environment tend to survive and produce more offspring. To whatever extent we agree with Darwin and his theory of evolution, there is something genetic about the survival of the fittest, for there is an inner compulsion that drives the female of the species to mate with the strongest, most attractive male. Observation teaches us that this holds true in all species, humans included. The question then becomes, what is it within a male’s make-up that draws the female of the species to him? More importantly, what are the factors that you, as a male, can exhibit in order to attract the female of your choice. To answer that question, we need to begin at the beginning, that is, with the origin of the species. That origin derives from a deep rooted instinctual drive to adapt. All species basically have this same instinct for survival and utilize the capacity to adapt in order to survive. An obvious example is found in the animal kingdom. The short neck giraffe is a case in point. Because giraffes now live in climates with often barren land, they tend to seek nutrients from eating leaves on trees. Hence the height. Their necks give them an advantage to feed. But when you think of a giraffe, you immediately think of height. What about short necked giraffes? Because of the need to survive, and the benefit of a long neck and its advantages, giraffes have adapted. Are there still short neck giraffes, yes, but they are less common and need for survival have made them so. How does this relate to dating? First, let me say that you don’t have to have a certain physical stature to succeed in dating, but there are some things that you can do to present yourself as the best mating candidate. Just as Darwin’s theory looks at an organism’s likeliness to succeed at surviving, reproducing, and prospering in a given situation, contemporary women look for these same qualities, whether consciously or unconsciously, in the men that they will date. Moreover, research proves that women are biologically attracted to men who exude the ability to achieve these ends. Focusing on the fundamentals of human instincts and behavior allows us to see how large a part they play in attraction and the need to make yourself seem like the most attractive and capable suitor to achieve the three keys to existence, which are to survive, reproduce and prosper. How you become irresistible to women is not by sheer luck, or the magic of a fairy god-mother, or by an anonymous benefactor, but through good old-fashioned effort and knowledge. You’re responsible for the effort and I’m about provide you with some knowledge. So here are 5 ways to become too tempting to be resisted: More at: http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- How To Kiss A Girl And Be Unforgettable Hey YouTubers! Kate Spring here. Lately, I’ve been getting a lot of messages from you guys about how to kiss a girl. I’ve thought about this for quite some time. My first thought was, “OMG! You can practice on your hand,” or if that’s not your style, then a teddy bear like I did when I was figuring out how to kiss. But then I thought kissing inanimate objects is probably not the best course of action. So I have some legitimate advice for you on how to kiss a girl and be unforgettable. Just before I reveal my strategy, don’t forget to leave your questions in the comments below and I will be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. The first thing I recommend you do when you are about to kiss a girl is to be calm! Chill out! Or at least try and calm yourself down. Sometimes, if you are a little nervous, it can be endearing to a girl. And, other times, if you are just sweating profusely and shaking, it can kind of be a turn off. Try and give yourself a confidence boost before you head into a situation. Try a personal pep talk where you let yourself know that you are a stellar dude who’s going to kiss the crap out of a girl and make it beyond memorable. The worst thing that is going to happen is that you flop, and the kiss sucks, but that just means you try again. So have some confidence and just go for it. The second thing that is important about having a memorable kiss is having good breath. This is the prep work before you play tonsil hockey. This is pretty easy to accomplish, just keep some breath mints and/or gum on hand. Along with the prep work before a good kiss, it wouldn’t hurt to invest in a chap stick. If you don’t want to go out with glossy lips, no problem, apply it at night before you go to bed. Having soft lips will also set you apart from the crowd and help to make your kiss memorable. The third piece of advice when leaning in for the kiss is that wetter isn’t necessarily better in this case. Try to contain the moisture levels coming out of your mouth; you don’t want to drown your crush. Remember, again, that EVERYONE is different. And that means that they will kiss differently. So don’t get discouraged if it takes you a second to find your rhythm. If you want to learn more about finding your rhythm in attracting women and figuring out the right body language to do so, head over to katespring.com/free and get your hands on a copy of my attraction handbook, which is completely free by the way! To start kissing, begin with some soft slow kisses, and you can build the intensity from there. Instead of going in full force with some tongue, put the other person’s lower lip in between yours and linger a little bit. And now that you are kissing, you should probably add some body contact. You can do multiple things, rest your hand on her cheek or where her hairline meets her neck or the small of her back. Whatever comes naturally to you and feels appropriate for the situation. I can’t give you a prescriptive step by step follow these rules exactly to get the perfect memorable kiss, but by using these tips, and doing it in your own way, will be unique. And, finally, mix it up a bit. Don’t keep your head in the same place or your hands or your mouth for that matter! And have fun! Kissing is fun! Alright YouTube, that’s all I have for you today! So go out there and give a girl your best, freshest breathed kiss! And don’t forget to show me some love and like and subscribe to my channel. And head over to katespring.com/free for your free copy of my attraction handbook! Till next time! More at: http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- How To Pick Up Women Hello my YouTube friends! I thought it was time that I release a video that outlines how to pick up women. Because, well, I think that this is one of the very first steps you need to master in order to meet your ideal woman! This is the preliminary video that outlines how to pick up women, and it gives you a couple different strategies to try out so that you can find the one that works the best for you. There is SOO much information out there on how to pick up women. This information comes in different forms from sleazy pick-up lines to the debate between day game and night game or whether or not to open with a compliment. I want you to decide what works best for you. So I’ve broken down a few pick-up strategies for you to try out and find which one you like the best, and which one or ones actually work for you. And don’t worry, if you were confused by any of the terms stated above, you can rest assured because they will all be explained in due time.But, before we get into the contents, I just want to remind you that if you have any questions throughout the video, please leave them in the comments section below, and I’ll get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. Alright, for the first part of this video, I want to discuss day game versus night game. Day game is exactly what it sounds like. It means to pick up women during the day time. On the other hand, night game refers to picking up women in the evening and usually involves a bar or a club. There are advice givers that advocate for one over the other, and it is usually pick-up artists that recommend day game. And for the most part, I would agree, but I would be a hypocrite if I said that people never met a future partner in the party scene. I know of a lot of clients who were successful at both. But, today, I have 3 day game strategies for you to try and see how they work. This is not an exhaustive list by any means, but it is a good stepping stone for you to figure out what works and doesn’t work for you. I’m essentially asking you to practice approaching women. The more you do it, the better you will get at it. Along that road, however, you’re going to run into some speed bumps, and those speed bumps are rejection. Sometimes travelling on that road might feel like one speed bump after the next, but the more experience you have, the more resilient you will become, and the better at approaching women you will get. So treat the whole experiment as a game. Try to prove to you and only you how well you can do at this. Here, then, are three different types of day game approaches for you to try. The first is the direction question. This one is good if you’re new to the game and you just want to get your feet wet. It goes like this: You stop a girl or two girls who are walking down the street and you say, “Oh, excuse me, can either of you tell me where the closest coffee shop is?” Now I might caution you from using Starbucks because, well, it’s been around for quite some time and women might have caught on. You can change it to any kind of coffee shop, chain store or restaurant. Something universal about which a lot of people know. It doesn’t matter if the woman you’re asking don’t know where it is because you just used that line as an excuse to talk to her. From there it is your opportunity to transition into a conversation. If she doesn’t know, ask her where she’s from, and what she’s doing here. One of the benefits of approaching women in the day time is that there is less competition as opposed to picking up women at the bar. Approaching women in the daytime gives off a more genuine vibe than say a club or bar. In the day time, generally, men don’t have liquid courage under their belt, so women feel that if they get approached by someone who is interested in them, they have an easier time responding because you don’t seem desperate to take a girl home from the bar. To women, you’re saying, “I genuinely want to get to know you and not just what’s under those clothes,” without saying those words exactly. For the most part, single women want to be approached all day every day! So remember that! You would be shocked at how many women actually want to be approached at any time of the day and how often they are not approached! It was shocking, women are actually extremely open to being approached if you are genuine in your method. This is a much easier way to build a connection with someone. And women want to be approached soberly in the day time. It sets you apart from the pack and shows her right from the get go that you have confidence. Also, this is the best way to meet attractive women and not have them just blow you off after you’ve just bought her a drink, as is customary in a bar. More: http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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http://www.KateSpring.com - Top 3 Flirting Mistakes Do you consider yourself to be good at flirting? Can you charm the pants off of anything with two feet and a heartbeat? And are you a silver tongue? If you are none of these things, don't fear, I'm Kate Spring, dating and relationship coach from Victoria, BC, and I'm here to guide you on some of the flirting mistakes that men make with women. Forget whatever advice you learned in elementary school that taught you being mean to a woman was an acceptable form of flirting. Being mean to someone is not flirting; it’s being an ass. If you want to make a good and lasting impression on her, don’t play those kind of games. Be sincere. I, like a lot of other girls, was told that if a boy was mean to be it really just meant that he liked me. This is one of the worst things to be taught when you are younger. This meant that I spent a good chunk of my teenage years chasing boys who were mean to me, thinking that this was their awkward way of saying that they liked me. It was wrong then, and it’s wrong now. If you like someone, don't be mean to them. It’s childish and will often lead to disappointment for both you and your girl of interest. Remember, if you have any questions, please leave them in the comments below and I’ll be sure to respond to them, personally, as soon as I can. The key to successfully approaching a woman that you are attracted to is know that women want to be approached in a sincere way. We want to feel like we stand out and are unique. If you approach us with a cheesy pick up line, then chances are we know you've probably tried that on a hand full of girls before you got to us. Being sincere is not being a "pussy"; being sincere is actually a sign of maturity and lets us know that you are mature and aren't just looking to get into our pants, even if that is your end game. Having a genuine interaction with a woman will work wonders for you, I promise. Another mistake some men make when trying to flirt with women is that they steer the conversation in a serious direction too soon. When you approach a woman, in any situation, and your agenda is to be flirty, having a deep meaningful conversation doesn't read as flirty to most people. Our minds are dark and twisted enough without having to interact with a crush in such a serious way right from the get go. So keep the conversations light hearted and funny. This would not be an ideal time to disclose any of your strange sexual fetishes. We also want to avoid being too random; let that happen once you've gotten to know her and you understand each other’s sense of humor. To start, then, be light. All living things move towards the light, whether plant or human. It is where we all want to be. While we’re learning some flirting mistakes, to get some solutions, head on over to katespring.com/free and get ahold of a free copy of my eBook The Attraction Building Handbook, which will give you ample information on how to get the woman you want. That’s katespring.com/free and I’ll be sure to leave the link in the details below. Ok, this next mistake is one that is far too common and that is when guys are too drunk. Don't get me wrong, there is a time and a place for liquid courage, but when you are genuinely trying to flirt, being drunk is more of a hindrance than a turn on. There is nothing worse than being out with your friends only to have the drunkest guy in the bar approach you with stale beer on his breath and a faint hint of cigarette smoke trailing him. There is, however, something to be said about the guy who is able to compose himself in that type of environment. If you are able to have a couple drinks and let your guard down and get into some good natured flirting, then I'd say you are well on your way to becoming boyfriend material. Alright, my last tip in creating an effective flirting game is to be genuine in your conversation. Ask her questions about herself by all means, but avoid the yes or no type of questions. Remember, this is a conversation, not an interrogation. So be interested, be sincere, keep eye contact, and let her know that she has your attention. Sometimes being an active listener is more important than anything that you can say. The quickest way to end a conversation is to pay attention to everyone else in the room but the person that you are speaking to. The more resilient you are in your flirting, the better off you will be. And, honestly, the more practice you have the more comfortable you will be in that state of mind. If you can avoid teasing in an unkind way, being a downer in your conversation, avoid being intoxicated and, rather, ask her interesting questions, then I have no doubt your flirting will be fruitful. Alright, Youtube, that’s all for today. Don’t forget to subscribe to my channel and stay up to date with my latest videos! Thanks for watching, I’m Kate Spring and I’ll see you next time.
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- How To Date Hot Women How many times have you seen an attractive woman and thought to yourself, oh, she would never talk to me; she’s way too hot? And how many times has this stopped you from approaching her? If this is you, then you can relax, cause I got your back. Hey YouTube, I’m Kate Spring. Dating and relationship coach from the west coast of Canada and I want to not only share with you some tips about how to date hot women but also how to boost your self-confidence to get you there! Just before we get started, if you have any questions, drop me a line in the comments section below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. Alright, the first thing you should know about women is that not all of us are shallow! Our culture just suggests that we are. If you don’t look like one of the Hemsworth brothers, don’t worry! Hot women don’t always go for looks first. Sometimes, women are mostly attracted to someone’s sense of humor, kindness, thoughtfulness and/or intelligence. A man’s looks aren’t always a make or break deal for women. You just need to figure out your strong suit. If you are any of the things that I’ve just described, figure out which one is your best quality, and play that up. So don’t think about reasons why a hot girl might not like you; start focusing on the aspects about yourself that are likeable. It is psychologically proven that the more we get to know someone, the more we find them attractive. So the more you let women get to know you without being shielded by your own insecurity, the more they will like you and be receptive to you. Now that you know that not all women are shallow, you should feel more confident in approaching women you find attractive. A lot of attraction has to do with how you make someone else feel. If you make someone feel good about themselves, they will most likely want to continue being around you. If you are a pessimistic person who always looks for problems in situations, women won’t want to be around you complaining all the time. BUT if you are optimistic and light hearted about situations that arise, women will be highly attracted to you for being easy going and finding a reason to laugh as opposed to getting mad. These are all part of making people feel good, which makes them want to be around you. Another big thing about being attractive to people is that if you have a strong sense of self confidence, and you can instill that in another person, there is no reason you can’t be dating hot women. Everyone wants to feel confident and good about themselves, and the more you can recognize it in yourself, the easier it is to bring it out in other people. Women aren’t as complicated as we like to think we are. But we are all very different. For a more in depth look at building attraction with a woman, head over to katespring.com/free and sign up for my attraction handbook, which will give you all the tools that you need to stimulate some attraction with any hot woman that you want. And it is completely free by the way! Another thing about dating hot women is that you shouldn’t be afraid to switch things up. You don’t have to stick to fancy dinners and those kind of go to date ideas. Switch it up by taking her out to lunch on the weekend. Get her out in daylight. You could also do an activity without breaking the bank. Go paddle boarding, kayaking or whatever the two of you are into and can do together in the daytime, as opposed to the night. The night time date has this connotation with something expected at the end of the date. You prolong wooing a girl and the chase when you don’t expect sex right away. And if you don’t, it will most likely increase the sexual tension between you, which is a bonus, and will show her that you are interested in her for more than her looks. Women also don’t want to be solely liked for their looks. We want to be appreciated for our personality, brains, our sense of humor and our kindness. We really want someone to acknowledge all of our qualities besides our looks. And you can continue to get to know us through social media and texting. Again, my attraction book also covers ways to build attraction over text, so that’s katespring.com/free. And the last and final way to date hot women is to have a personality. Women are big suckers for the “funny guy.” In my experience, I’ve come to understand that everyone is pretty damn funny in their own way with the right audience. Show women that you have a sense of humor and do so by not taking yourself too seriously, so don’t be overly concerned with playing it cool. Don’t let your fear of what other people think about you control you. That is your ego talking. Having an overly inflated ego isn’t as important or attractive to women as it is about males’ relationships with other males. Find out More at http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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----------------------Go to: http://www.KateSpring.com/FREE ------------------------ --------------------Go Watch My Free Full Video Presentation!----------------------- Hey there, and welcome to my channel! My name is Kate Spring and I’m a dating and relationship coach from the west coast of Canada. For today’s video, as you can tell by the title, we’re going to look at some of the reasons why you’re still single. These are general reasons why a lot of people, in this day and age, are still single. Before we get any further, I want to remind you to subscribe to my channel where you can stay up to date with my latest videos and also leave any of your questions in the comments section below where I will get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. 1. Expectations are too high: One of the main reasons why you’re single is that your expectations are too high and even unrealistic. Maybe you have one of those check lists that sounds like this: brunette, thin, not taller than me, can cook, has her own money, is the perfect mix of sexy and cute, loves sex, likes all of my friends, is independent, etc. Everyone kind of has some sort of list. But if you’re list is too extensive and specific, you might be setting yourself up for disappointment, which is a definite contributor to your non-existent relationship status. These lists are problematic, think about a woman’s potential list and what it’s like to live up to other people’s unrealistic standards? It’s quite off putting. Do you want to try to live up to those standards? What if a woman’s list was to be humble, sexy, confident, adores me, thinks I’m THE MOST beautiful woman in the world, is loyal and committed, but still makes me want him by sometimes ignoring me. Loves to travel, funny, generous, patient, romantic. Etc. Honestly, the list could go on and on. For both men and women. But I think where we’ve gone wrong is that we’re constantly inundated with images and ideas of perfection. The perfect gym body, the perfect gym couple #relationship goals, but what we fail to see in our daily social media intake is the quirks and imperfections that each individual has that makes us all unique and differentiates us from the rest of the world. People even think that for relationships to work we need to follow some arbitrary check list that worked for one person, when in reality, you determine what works for you and your partner. Author, Mark Manson, said that “It’s really simple: We all have our own imperfections. Everyone we date also has their own imperfections. Intimacy and romance is determined by people who have comparable and complementary imperfections to one another.” So I guess what I’m trying to say is throw the arbitrary check list out the window. Try and just meet and engage with people for the sake of expanding your horizons. Test yourself by engaging with people who you wouldn’t have before for the sheer purpose of trying to learn a different way of being in the world. And learn some new things about yourself along the way! Open your mind and your preferences. If you guys are still troubled by being single, and you want to learn more about building and maintaining attraction, then head over to katepring.com/free and get yourself a copy of my attraction building handbook that I’m giving away for free. That’s katespring.com/free. 2. You Lack Self- Confidence: If you’ve watched any of my other videos, you would have heard me reference this saying before by Rene Descartes. That saying is “Cogito ergo sum.” I think; therefore, I am. Ralph Waldo Emerson also said another iteration of the same thing when he said that “you are what you think about all day long.” What you think you become. The way that you think and speak about yourself directly correlates to how you carry yourself and how people perceive you. A lot of a lack of self-confidence has to do with fear. I’m afraid, so that must mean that I can’t do this mindset. Ferentez says that, “it’s amazing how easily being afraid translates to ‘There’s no point in trying or believing that success can be achieved.’” Be kind to yourself. We’re all trying our best. When you’re feeling afraid ask yourself what do you have to lose by trying something new and getting out of your comfort zone and the answer should be nothing. Because at the end of the day, whatever happens to you, you will be ok. Alright, YouTube, that’s all I have for you today. I hope that this video helps to give you some of the confidence and a positive mindset to put yourself out there in hopes of finding a special lady. Again, don’t forget to subscribe to my channel where you can stay up to date with my latest videos. And if you want to be notified any time that I release a new video ring the notification bell. And leave me any of your questions in the comments section below. Thanks for watching and I’ll see you in my next video.
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http://www.KateSpring.com/Free --- 8 Pickup Lines That Are Guaranteed To Work Hey YouTube! I’m Kate Spring, your dating and relationship coach from the west coast of Canada. I’m here to share some foolproof pick-up lines that will help you break the ice with any girl. I’m going to ask you to forget those god awful lines like, “did it hurt?” “Did what hurt?” “When you fell from heaven?” ahhhhhh Move along! This line actually does not work! It’s so old and outdated i think it was funny in the early 2000’s, but not now. There are thousands of pick-up lines out there, but that doesn’t mean they should be used. Just before I let you in on 8 pick-up lines that are guaranteed to work, I want to remind you to leave any questions that you have in the comments below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can! Before I give you the goods, remember that the purpose of a pick-up line is to open conversation. The purpose is not to offend her or make your buddies laugh. Here, we are simply trying to break the ice in our initial encounters. My first piece of advice in actually using these pick-up lines is that you want to show confidence, so be direct in how you approach her. Don’t walk up to her timidly. Approach her with purpose, head high, shoulders back. Okay, the first one I have for you is a more adventurous one. It basically suggests that you walk up to a woman and ask her, “Truth or dare?” This also requires you to do a little background work before. You need to have a truth and a dare prepared before you even approach her. You don’t want to be standing in front of her shocked that she answered you by saying, “Ummmmm… one sec.” For example, if she says dare, you could say, “I dare you to let me buy you a drink!” An example for truth could be, “If there was no such thing as money, what would you do with your life?” Or something along those lines. This pick-up line does two things. It can reveal someone’s adventurous side if they lean towards a dare, but it can also help you break the ice even faster by asking her an interesting question. Whichever one she goes for will tell you something about her personality and help you get to know her that much faster. I surveyed a handful of clients to give me honest feedback on their most successful pickup lines, and this next one is one of them. This is like that fall back one, and it’s super easy to remember. This one requires you to go up to a girl that you’ve never met and say a random girl’s name. For example, you could say, “Hey, Sophie!” She will most likely respond with an “I’m not Sophie…” And you then say, “Oh no! I’m so sorry, but you look just like my friend Sophie.” And then this would be a good time to introduce yourself. This one is tricky because it is all about the execution. If you aren’t feeling confident in your acting abilities, then I would suggest using another one, but if you are up for the challenge and can keep this ball rolling, then I suggest you try it. But make sure to be sincere in your apology. With the wrong execution, some women might get offended. But then, again, she might just not be in a flirting mood, and you’d be better off moving on to someone else. This next line is for those students out there who are looking to break the ice with a cute classmate. This also works in any situation where you are seated. This one goes that if there is an empty seat by a girl you want to approach, simply ask her, “Is this seat taken?” If she says no, then sit down and strike up a conversation. Start by introducing yourself. And find out her name. Avoid topics on the weather and the political climate, unless you have a superb joke. Try and engage with her by talking about something in the surrounding environment. If it’s a class, you could ask her about the professor, or recount a funny story that happened in class. Basically, you just need proximity and reason to strike up a conversation and then you can go from there. One thing to keep in mind when you’re using these pickup lines is that the goal is to strike up conversation, not to get her to commit to you for life. So don’t get too attached to one girl, or one topic for that matter. Don’t be afraid to switch up the conversation. Before we get too far, to learn more about picking up women and stimulating some attraction, head over to katespring.com/free and pick up a free copy of my attraction building handbook. That’s katespring.com/free and it’s completely free by the way. Another kind of cheeky line to get someone’s attention is to tell them that they look like a famous person. Say, “You look like (insert famous person here).” This is intended to be a compliment, so wrack your brain for an attractive celebrity that she looks like or famous person who has done some good. More at: http://www.KateSpring.com/Free
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----------------------Go to: http://www.KateSpring.com/FREE ------------------------ --------------------Go Watch My Free Full Video Presentation!----------------------- Hey there, my name is Kate Spring. I’m a dating and relationship coach from the west coast of Canada. And in this video, I want to get right into the nitty gritty of it. So, let me ask you something, do you want to be successful? Do you want to excel in all areas of your life? Professionally, socially, financially, and most importantly, romantically? If you’re answer is yes, then you’ve come to the right place. To begin, you might now be asking yourself “what could success in all of these areas in life have in common?” The answer is that one of the best ways to succeed in life is by being likeable. People who are likeable are appealing to others. Likeability is a magnetic force that inevitably draws people to you. Likeability gets you where you want to go in life. Studies reveal that it’s that one thing—that special thing some people are born with or cultivate early in life that sets them apart from the pack and gives them certain privileges in this world. And thankfully, this is something that you can inculcate in yourself that will transform you from zero to hero. Before we move on, be sure to subscribe to my channel where you can then leave all of your questions in the comments section below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. 1. Sense of humor: For a while now, people have been talking about a 6th sense, the missing piece to our traditional 5 senses. We have taste, touch, smell, sight, hearing, but what about those who lack a 6th sense? A sense of humor? Those people that aren’t in tune with what I, myself, and others would argue is one of the ruling senses. Because it is the one that you have control of. One that you can cultivate. One that is not up to biology, but psychology. 2. Don’t pass judgement: I think that many people mistake making fun of people and being overly judgmental to be a sign of humor. Making fun of people/ passing judgements in a humorous tone is one of the lowest expression of humor that humans have adopted. At all cost, avoid that. If you have nothing to offer but criticism and judgement, then remain silent. If you want to learn more about mastering attraction, head over to katespring.com/free and get ahold of my attraction building handbook that I’m giving away for free! That’s katespring.com/free 3. Don’t seek attention: When I say that you should have a sense of humor, I’m not suggesting that you be the class clown. That seems like a cry for attention. You don’t want to seek attention because the only thing you will give off is a scent of desperation. Some people are so desperate for attention that they compromise themselves and their own beliefs. But the truly magnetic people, those who are likeable and attract positive female attention, are those who command attention, not in a forceful way but with a kind of quiet confidence. 4. Consistent/ reliable: Consistency is something that helps you succeed professionally, and personally. Just as consistency is important in child rearing, it is still important in your adult life when trying to create and maintain healthy relationships. Foolish inconsistency, said Ralph Waldo Emerson, is the hobgoblin of small minds. Note, here, however, that being reliable is not being a door mat; it’s not a negative character trait; it’s a strength and something for which many people seek in long term partners. That’s all I have for you today, YouTube. Thank you for tuning in to this video! Don’t forget to subscribe to my channel where you can stay up to date with my latest videos! And I’ll see you in my next one.
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